Lost my boyfriend of 6 years and neighbour to bowel cancer 3 weeks ago. He seemed to go down hill very quick . Died within a month of diagnosis.
Finding it tough. I have had no input to the funeral arrangements and now the family are in his house going through his stuff and we haven’t had funeral yet.
I was looking after him for 2 months before he went to hospital and was eventually diagnosed. Then his extended family have taken over . He was a widower.
I have asked if I can help but they have not responded. Not sure what is happening at the funeral. I have to find my own way there.
Hello Sunflower
My name is Steph and I’m part of the Community team here at Macmillan. May I wish you another warm welcome to the Community, I hope you will find it to be a safe place of comfort and support.
I was so sorry to read about the sudden loss of your boyfriend and for the way that you're being treated by his family. It sounds like a truly traumatic time and it’s positive that you are reaching out for support. It's important to allow yourself time to grieve and express your feelings. Please remember to be kind to yourself and seek professional help if needed.
I am just letting you know that I have moved your post here into the bereaved spouses and partners forum so you can connect with more people in similar circumstances. By replying to you here, your post will be more visible and other members can offer you some support.
Please do keep posting about how you are feeling, there are lots of people here who understand, because they have been there themselves.
We also have some written information here around coping with bereavement, in case you find it helpful. I would highlight this part about things that may help when you are grieving.
If you’d like to talk anything through with an expert at Macmillan, I’d encourage you to contact the Support Line. Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.
In addition to offering a listening ear, we may refer you to other bereavement services, such as Cruse Bereavement Support, a charity dedicated to helping help people through one of the most painful times in life. You can contact Cruse directly on 0808 808 1677.
I’d also recommend you take a look at the website Ataloss.org. They can help you find the right bereavement support for you, from national organisation helplines to small local groups who might meet face to face.
Your GP can also help you to access the right support. If you feel you may need more immediate help, you can contact the following services at any time to make an emergency appointment and get advice:
Please do let us know if you have any questions, if you’d like some help using the Community or further support with anything at all. I hope that the Community helps you feel less alone and shows you that there’s a lot of support available for you.
Kindest Regards,
