Xmas

I’m in Hertfordshire 

I am in the Highlands of Scotland (north of Inverness). Dont worry about including me in the calculations for "being central".

If I can, I will travel to get there, but with my wee moggie, its not as easy. That said, my mum did mention in passing that she might be happy looking after him for a few days

I'm in Hampshire.

Just woke feeling sick, upset stomach......prob something I ate. But there is no one here, to say 'you ok?'

Back to an empty, lonely bed.

I haven't started counselling, how do you know if you need it? I thunk.i do.

Love and hugs xx

Hi Sad1

Are you OK? I know its not the same, but I thought I would ask.

A lonely bed is one of the things I am still struggling with.

I started listening counselling, another 4 months to wait for bereavement counselling to have a space for me.

It's helpful, as I can speak my mind with total impunity, knowing that it won't be repeated.

All my internal fears and worries can be vocalised on a safe space which helps me understand how I feel, what I have lost, and how I am going to carry on. Those things I did with Jan for all those years.

It also gives me a reason for human interaction once a week for 30 mins.

I am going our with a walking group next week, ser up by our local hospice for bereaved peeps, a bit like here but in real life, people who get what I feel.

Give it a shot if it's available, do the couple of sessions, the first one was hard for me as I felt like I was reliving the whole thing again. Not that I don't relive the end over and over in my mind most nights, but I had to explain it to someone else.

Take care, I hope the feeling of sickness passes soon

Hugs

Hi, I hope you are ok, I experienced being sick on week 2, I have a lot of allergies and must have eaten something, he always held my head when reactions happened. What made it worse was the fact he collapsed and died on the floor where I was lying, I was beside myself with grief and fear that night. It’s so scary being on your own when you are feeling sick. I now take my phone around the house with me, even in the bathroom. I don’t have anyone that lives near me I could phone but I know my daughter would come if I called her. Take care, let us know how you are xx

Thank you.

Thankfully feeling better as the day has gone on.

Good idea about taking the phone around with me.

Take care

Love and hugs x

I am glad you are starting to feel better as the day has gone on. Sending hugs and kindness to all our friend’s here. Kate. Xxx