Lost my wife

Hi Andrew, I lost my Denise on 26th April 22. We had her service on 16 May 22. I work for myself and I am still not up to doing any major work. I have sent out a few invoices to pay the bills, but apart from that, nothing. Take care

Aww I’m so sorry Andrew , you need to look after yourself too … I know it’s hard to do .

Take care .

always here if you need a chat ️

Today I met you with friend of mine and my wife's it was ok but when I got home l started to cry  I kept saying that it should have been me and not the wife who died of cancer I was the one who st out in the un more than her I am feeling very low at the moment  even though I have been back t work for 3 days I'm  starting to feel it now tht she has gone xxxx

Hi Andrew, of course you will feel the loss and pain, although knowing that it’s normal, doesn’t help you to manage any better. It’s such early days for you, everything is so raw and vivid, I said the same thing as you, that it should have been my wife who stayed and it should have been me that left. Again these thoughts are natural and common, just try to keep concentrating on the love and memories you share. I am at 10 months now, I didn’t think I would improve, but the past few days I have made myself go out, it’s made me more positive and less anxious. You’re going to work, so you’re getting out anyway, so long as it’s the right think for you to do, don’t be afraid to take some leave, if it’s what you need.

take care

Today I went to fo a park run for the first since the funeral it was hard to do ,Jean helped to get around  and had a friend who runs we both run together so it made it a bit better 

Well done

Thanks it very hard to be around alot of people  

Yesterday I went out to my wife best friends who she had known since they were kids it was good to see them ,I doing OK then it happened I was stud next to the chair that my wife would always sit in and I started to cry then they all started it wall lovely to see them and to spend time talking to them about Jean and other things 

Today is my wife daughters birthday it's guna be hard day today  to concentrate on work 

Hello Andrew,

I lost my wife in April, she was 52 and had breast cancer for 15 years. I'm only a month ahead of you, so I'm no expert, but it is a bit easier now, albeit very dislocating, I'm pretty unmotivated at work & sometimes I'm thinking 'When is she coming back from hospital ?' - I've just been trying to keep as busy as possible and treat getting through another week as a 'success'. Just wanted to let you know you aren't alone and I hope you are having better days.