Monday blues

Hoping your Tuesday blues are less for Wednesday and every other day for you this week Jane.

Ian x

Thank you x

Hi everyone on this thread, I am not sure whether you will get this message. I am writing this with my new laptop and I am not sure how my screenreader will work with the site. But we'll see... I think it is so true that the love we feel for our partners is the reason why our grief is so deep. We can only grieve so much because we have loved so deeply. And that is a great thing, isn't it? that we were able to love so deeply, I mean. I am going to try and send this now. We'll see what happens. Love, Mel.

It worked Mel xx

Nicely said Mel....it definitely worked, Ian x

Hi all, I do hope that we all at some point in the rest of our life’s we are able to live with the pain and emotions that we are experiencing at this moment in time.   I for one don’t know what to do with my feelings of emptiness.  It’s been 9 weeks now today since I lost my love.  I cry every day with the pain I’m trying hard to keep it in

my children are still here and they don’t know what we are going through together   They see me trying to cope and get by each day. As you say.  Looking busy hides the sadness.  I just hope that we all can get through this and live life as it was intended.     

you all take care.  Mark x

Hi 

I am 11 weeks today since Rob died, still struggling, it's so so hard.

Feel like today is a milestone as he returned home after 12 weeks in hospital, and lived 11 full weeks at home, they told us he had weeks not months to live after finding another tumour, so so pleased to have had them 11 weeks together, but now 11 weeks without him.

I struggle each day, keeping busy best I can, I am sure people think I am doing fine, but they "don't get it" don't actually think they "get me" like Rob did.

Sending best wishes and strength to everyone 

Donna

Not sure the message will work, I wrote one last week and it disappeared, left me upset and again why bother, well I have bothered today.

Donna your emotional pain is the same as mine at this moment in time.  As is all of ours on this site I am seeking more help from cruse they are helpful in talking with me about every day experiences that I am struggling with.    The little tiniest thing will set me off on a downer.  I know how your feeling we got to take one day at a time so I’ve been told.  Take care.  Mark 

He Donna

I'm glad you bothered today. Always do. We're all here. Yes we're all feeling shite too but we're united in it at least. 

I think, those of us on here all had a real love a real soulmate who 'got us' and that's what makes us all feel this grief so deeply. Of course nobody gets you like Rob did that's the point, that's what is so hard to face living without. 

I'm sure some people do think you are doing 'fine' but those are the lucky ones who have not had to face what we have. I'm being very open with my grief but it's because that's just me and how I am.

I am finishing up a porch and front garden project because Dave and I started it together. I don't want to, I can't be bothered it's a chore but I have to do it. Now when various people come, gardeners, tree people, builder, tiler... some days someone turns up to give me a quote and I converse they leave and you'd never know what my life is just now. Other times I'm blubbering away while trying to explain what I'd like them to quote me for and they end up leaving knowing I lost my husband 5 weeks ago. I just feel what I feel when I feel it and don't try to pretend, be strong or anything other than what the feelings are. That's not everyones way but if you are afraid to, afraid what others think DON'T your grief is your grief and you are allowed to feel it. 

On here you KNOW nobody judges. 

Sending you a big hug xx

Hi PA,

My project, Rob's garden, some days I motivated others why bother.

Love Donna