It’s my birthday today, 47 years old and a widow. It’s my first birthday without my husband since I was 22. I stayed at my daughters house so I didn’t have to wake up alone, but somehow I just feel even more alone. I feel like I’m surrounded by happy couples and know that I will never have that again.
Missing my husband like crazy. He’d have brought me a cup of tea in bed, made a real fuss and then we’d have gone for a lovely winter walk. Birthdays just won’t be the same now.
Oh Lee Bop, what a thoughtful response. I too was married to someone who was very good at nodding and commenting in all the right places.
Take care and thank you xx
And I’ve got details of several places who make memory bears....if you decide to go down that route. X
My stepdaughter wants one of those bears too for our grandson so I’ll be doing. The same. My hubby loved a shirt or two (he has more clothes than me!) so I have plenty to choose from!
And I wish I could say the same about my hubby nodding in all the right places when I was rambling on. Sometimes he was good but generally if I’d gone on long enough he’d simply talk straight over me, his way of saying ‘I’m bored now’! Frustrating at the time but I’d give anything to have him interrupt me again! I loved everything about him, even the annoying bits ha ha ️
Hi Kenickiesmum
after our last chat I went straight to the car and retrieved Nicks shirts and t shirts and his hospice PJ’ s that was going to charity bin. I was struggling with the thought of ever seeing anyone in them so the idea of Memory Bear is beautiful. I had a quick look online but there are so many companies and some don’t look so good,so if you have recommendations that would be great. I hope your all doing ok. I am a good way through sorting out official paperwork ( with my sons help) we had a care business and Nick done most of that and he was so poorly so quickly he run of time to show me, once I am on top of that I do wonder how I’m going to feel as it is keeping me distracted for a big part of the day. I am looking forward to spring so I can get out in the garden that might be my only adventure for quite a while
Take care
Lee bop xx
Hello Lee Bop
The official paperwork seems endless doesn’t it? And I’d only personal things to deal with....still haven’t sorted out the internet provider and my mobile which are both in my husband’s name.
I don’t know whether I’m allowed to advertise on here but I’m sure someone will tell me if I’m breaking the rules. So the three places I’ve been told about for memory bears are
Raggedy Pals, based in Sunderland
The Make and Mend based in Leeds
Sew Betsie based in Wakefield
They all appear if you google them, so hope this helps.
I hope you’re doing okay.
xx
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