Day 1

So sorry to hear about Rebecca passing but it sounds so peaceful for her. Take comfort in that. 

It will be surreal for the next few days. You won't know if you are coming or going. One step at a time and come and chat if you need to. 

Take care

Love and hugs Alison xxx

You will get there but just for now give yourself time to be irrationally sad and you should find you can claw back a semblance of normality.

My only advice is to keep doing the 'normal' stuff, washing, eating and expect to feel crap!

You're among friends here who know what it's like...

Tattoo - hello and day 1, start of another difficult time. Automatic pilot worked for me and still does. Welcome is not  the right word but it is safe here. 

I have found this group a great comfort,  hope you will as well, i lost the love of my life only a week ago the pain is unbearable,  we were married for 45 years. I hope time brings peace to us all on here.

Sending a virtual hug to you and your daughter

so sad for your loss  x

So sorry Tattoo 

It is so raw for you and your daughter and the rest of the family.

You can only do one day at a time that is how the majority of us managed at the start of this awful journey and that is what it is.

You will experience  so many different emotions and you wonder where they come from at times, and they just take you of your guard.

I have read your profile lovely photos, those are your memories and we all have our memories whether good or bad.

You will learn how to deal with things we have to.

I am coming up to eleven months now, at the start i never thought i could get threw the first week, now i think how have i got this far.

I talk to my hubby a lot as if he was still here, it gives me comfort, i at times have even cursed him, when i had to sort out the mess in the shed, but i done it.

I have had great support from every one in this group and we all support each other. We all truly understand what the other is going threw and no one else can say that, unless they to have experienced it

Use the group when ever you need to and some one will always answer if they are about.

You have made the first move it took me a while to join, though you must take time for yourself.

Take Care Ellie xx

So sorry to read this Nathan, take comfort in being with Rebecca when she slipped peacefully away. You will no doubt have good & bad days but, be kind to yourself. Talk about a Rebecca with your daughter & take each hour as it comes.

I lost my wonderful husband 5 weeks ago, we were inseparable & I’m struggling. People here have been kind & supportive. 

Take care of yourself & your daughter

Sending a big virtual hug. 

Hi Nathan 

sorry for your loss  I still talk to my wife cuddle up with pillows at nite 

we are all to listen to you rant and support each other 

you have you daughter to look after remember one day at a time some will be bad and some good 

take care 

Martin x

Thank you all for your responses. I’ve really appreciated your thoughts and comments, I’ve read them all and wanted to respond individually but time keeps getting away from me. 
I spoke to the undertaker for the first time today and have to start to properly think about things now which I don’t really want to do. 
I also sat with Rebecca today and that was nice to just be with her. I’ll see her one last time when she has her final clothing next week, just waiting for our daughter to choose something. 

thank you for listening and communicating with me. I appreciate that

nathan 

Hi Nathan terribly sorry for your loss i know its early days my wife passed away only 5 weeks ago i have 2 children that miss there mum terribly like i do all i can say is you just take each day as it arrives and remember nothing will be as tough as those first few weeks. i have had some great support from this group we are all in this together and hear to listen all the best Reg