Day 1

Nathan , I’m so sorry you find yourself here. 
I am glad that Rebecca’s passing was peaceful, that you & your daughter were both with her & the staff were so lovely to you - believe me, that will help you a lot in the next few weeks, knowing you have done everything possible. 
 
if I may, id suggest not trying to think too far ahead, just take it one day & when you need it one hour, at a time. It’s very hard to think about how to live a lifetime - don’t try.  I don’t know how old your daughter is but I’m guessing she is quite young- I don’t know if she has been to a funeral before. I have 3 children who had never been to one before losing their dad, I talked to them about the man walking down the road all dressed up in the top hat as a mark of respect before the cars set off & my eldest wrote something about her dad which was read out on her behalf. My husband was cremated & I asked them to leave  the curtains open at the end of the service as it was easier for us to leave him rather than watch him disappear behind the curtain- that would’ve made me hysterical.

Do what feels right to you- & don’t expect too much of yourself either. 
Sending love to you both 

Sarah xx 

Thank you Reg, I really appreciate you taking the time, I’m sorry for your loss as well and the rawness of these early days. It’ll be one week tomorrow/today looking at the time and it feels like a lifetime already, our daughter finds evenings so hard, as do I. Take care and thank you 

Hi fella you dont have to thank me i know how your felling its ever so tough try to surround yourself with loved ones if you can and express exactly how your felling this is something that i try to do although i dont want to go to people at times because i just know i will cry i am a very emotional person at times its better out then in fella its a hard pill to swallow at times how old is your daughter i myself i have a 22 year old son also a 24 year old daughter that are keeping me going at times it so true take it one day at a time look after your daughter  where  are you from i myself  am living in kent always ready to listen thats to everybody who is on this forum best wishes to you both Reg

Hi Sarah your words are so true we all feel that we are going through some hard times we must all stay as strong as we can i know that some days you dont feel strong but believe me we are strong its only been  five weeks since i lost my best mate wife and soulmate we had 33 years together i am trying my up most to stay strong for my kids you sound like your a great mum and a good person take good care only a message away Reg

Thank you Reg, our daughter turned 13 a few days ago,  

yes I’m very emotional too, also insecure and I hate to admit it quite needy too, so it’s not a good combination, my wife although she wouldn’t believe it was the strong one. 

im in Birmingham so a long way away. I’m sorry your family are going through this and to be together so long is heartbreaking for you and your family. 

thank you and take care