A strange change for two days ? What is happening to me?

the happy memories are coming back.  Enjoy them,but you had been together for such a long time it is going to take forever.  I have been bereaved for over six years and there are still new memories coming through, either when I sit and think or I am asleep. They mostly always invoke a smile tinged with sadness.  It’s all part of the grieving process.  Take care Geoff xx

Aww Geoff it’s good that while sorting through things it brings back good memories,I’ve be trying to do the same with Alans things,can’t believe the things he kept,in one drawer he had a small stack of receipts for when he bought his petrol,and I thought why?.Strange you mentioned the the picture of your wife Anne,I have just sorted through some photos and chosen one of myself and Alan when we were younger,to put in a frame to look at,that’s how I want to remember him.and yes I’m crying now,but I suppose it’s all part of coping.hope you have a decent weekend and manage to keep yourself busy,I find the  weekend is harder than during the week,don’t know why that is.regards Val....

I have all my wife's sprays and potions still on the shelf our suit and wedding dress are still in the plastic wrappers in the cupboard haven't got the courage to go through the photos yet

Hi Val 

We seem to be going through the same process. Isn't that interesting ?  Let's hope things continue to move in a more comfortable way whilst keeping the loves of our lives close to our hearts.

Love and Light

Geoff

I still have all Alans sprays and aftershave on the unit,I did take them off but just didn’t seem right so I put them back,plus I made a memory cushion using one of his shirts and I spray his aftershave on it,and it’s comforting to hug.keeps him with me.you will sort things when you are ready Newb.ive only just started.

Best wishes Val....

I was going to try and sort some more things out tonight,thought it would keep me busy,but then came across a little keepsake I bought him years ago,didn’t even know he still had it,and that was it I have been in bits ever since.Not easy is it..

Val...

Hi Newb

I've decided I'll never give or throw my Anne's clothes away. As long as they stay in her wardrobe I feel she is still a part of our house and my life. Same with our bedroom draws. I only had the one draw at the bottom  because that's all I needed  - and still do. 

Love and Light

Geoff

Hi again Val 

I came across a birthday card Anne sent me last year. Included in her written greetings was this " I love you. You are my rock xxxxd.'  That triggered a grief attack. I don't know when or if I can ever read that card again. It hit me hard like an arrow into my very soul. I love that girl of mine so much. Now Im crying again. Perhaps writing down these memories and feelings to each other on our site is the best form of counselling? 

Loveland Light 

Geoff

Hi Geoff I so agree with you. I will never throw my Ron"s clothes away as I am like you I feel he is still part of our house which he loved so much.Some of my Grandsons have some of his sweatshirts and tops but he would have very pleased about that.  When I have to write any cards or letters I still put Carol and Ron and then I put my Angel in the sky. I know for a fact that he would love me putting that down. My family and friends like it as well. As long as I live I will never just put my name on any cards. Love and hugs. x Carol x

Hi Carol 

You may have answered a dilemma I've yet to face this Christmas. ( Dreading it !)

Do I just sign the cards with Geoff or Dad, as if I'm single again - which I don't consider I am. Or is there another way?  Your way seems a lovely tribute. I wonder if its possible to buy children's tiny stickers of Angels to place alongside or above our loved ones name? I know they do them in all sorts of shapes and themes like stars and in bright shiny colours. I'm going to the Pound Shop today so I'll see if I can find anything suitable. If push comes to shuv I could buy coloured stars and when stuck on the card a title ' My little star in the sky' 

Love and Light

Geoff