Struggling

Hi mike.  I know I am not Andrea or Mark but, we all hope you are coping ok as well.  Just take it moment by moment.  It does get easier believe me love Dolly xx

Thank you Dolly. I am finding it particularly hard today . Just can’t seem to stop crying. 

Mike 

Hi Mike

I am sorry to hear you are having a bad day. My thoughts are with you. Sending you big hugs. I wish i could make you feel better.

I hope you will have a brighter day tomorrow. Have you got any plans? Is anyone coming to visit you?

I really wish i could cheer you up a little bit. 

Thinking of you 

Andrea

Hi Mike it's been a long day today woke up this morning in tears had a dream and can't remember it hope your night goes by quickly just like me want to get bank holiday over   ianb

Hi Andrea and Newb. My son came yesterday but had to go again today. So on my own again. It just seems the more days that pass the harder it gets. I suppose it’s finally sinking in that I won’t hear her voice or see her again. But you all know how that feels. 

Newb when I dream I can never remember them ether it can be so frustrating. All I have done for most of the day is cry , can’t seem to stop at all .

 Hugs to you both. Mike 

Hi Mike, 

Its good you have a son who comes and visit you. 

We haven't got children. Only got a few friends but they all have their own lives and families. 

I went to the cemetery yesterday. Was sitting on the grass next to my husbands grave and talking to him. Even though we know our loved ones are gone forever, its impossible to accept they will never come back. I had a bad night last night with headache and its still not gone away. Just took some pain relief and hoping to get a better sleep tonight. 

I have tried to do little things at home today just to keep myself busy. But after its just goes back to same sorrow and pain and loneliness. Anything i do its just not same. No enthusiasm, no motivation. 

I hope we all have a good night sleep. 

Thinking of you and us all a better day tomorrow. 

Andrea

Hi Andrea, I hope you have a good night sleep tonight. I lost my wife near,y 9 months ago, I get very lonely, although I’ve got two kid living with me I still get lonely. Mainly the weekends are hard because I’m at home and then that’s  typically when family time is. I always go down the cemetery every week, that’s the best way to let out your emotions. The love will never fade away, it will always be there and you have to keep holding onto it.

Hope you all have better days to come

emin

Hi Andrea hope your headache is a bit better. And you get some sleep tonight. Yes it is hard to accept our loved ones are never coming back again. I try doing small jobs at home to take my mind of things but I don’t have any motivation either. And the pain and loneliness is always there. Hope we all do better tomorrow.

Mike

Hi Mike and all 

My mobile signal is dyer. This weekend of red hot weather makes it harder for me as I can't stand it and makes it even more difficult to sleep. My wife couldn't stand it either, so we were alike. It's to hot to go for a walk or do anything outside. It's to warm indoors as well. It's really difficult to fill the empty hours in sort a weather, I really hate it.

A work colleague said to me this week I should be getting on with life after 7 months. These people have no idea do they. We are all going through our own grieving process and we don't know how long it will take. That's what makes it so difficult to bear, I feel.

Everything is a question of time but there no time limits. Still day by with me. 

Hi Mike and all 

You're right, as the reality of our loss begins to sink in its true we feel worse. Trying to comprehend a future without our spouse is a constant thought flashing through my mind daily. It's difficult enough dealing with the now, let alone the future. 

Take it day by day and feel however we feel day by day, I'm Stumbling along the journey along with you all.