Young Adults who have lost a parent

Hello,

I feel I have to reply as I am 28 and definitely do not feel old enough to deal with this, my brother is 21. We lost our mum 3 weeks ago, funeral is in a few hours hence I am wide awake and having panic attacks. I don't really have anyone to fully support me, I do have one family friend my age who lost her mum 10 years ago but my closer friends have no idea. Be lovely for there to be a group etc for those under 30 I suppose who've lost a parent (or parents in my case...although I never knew my dad).

I too am having to buy a house etc now and whilst I'm excited I'm devastated my mum isn't here. 

Sending all of you all the love in the world x

Hi all,

I'm not sure how often people still check this thread but I'm going to give it a go!

I am 33, living in Warwickshire. I lost my parents 10years and 8 years ago respectively, just 18months apart when I was 24 for dad and 26 for mum.

My world literally fell apart. To cope I closed up. None of my friends could offer counsel, many still have grandparents alive. The last 10years have been awful...yes some great things have happened...I graduated then did a post grad. Bought my first house then got married. But it is all tinged with a depth of sadness. I don't go round moping, I try to get on with it but it's ridiculously tough.

I was motivated to do something today after listening to Prince Harry's podcast about struggling with the death of his mum.

If anyone wants to start a support group, I'm happy to help/come. Even if it's every 3 months or so, it's something. I'm so longing for connection with others who may understand me better.

Love you you all in your varying griefs and pain. Xx

Hi,

I'm so sorry to hear that. Where abouts are you and your brother from? Like you said, a support group for under 30's would be such a good idea. Let's try to arrange this?

Debs x

Hi Liz,

I am so glad you have posted a message on here, I was worried after posting recently that no one would reply anymore. I'm from Norwich but currently finishing my last term at university in Nottingham. Happy to meet somewhere in the middle if others are also keen for a support group.

I think it's such a good idea.

Debs x

Hi Liz

Have you looked at 

www.cruse.org.uk

Email:coventry@cruse.org.uk

Their Coventry and Warwickshire group might have something to offer. 

Ian

I think the group is a good idea. Even if we met up somewhere for an "outing" would be lovely to be able to meet people who know exactly how you feel.

I'm South east/east Midlands/east Anglia depends on who you ask haha Bedfordshire x

Great to hear from you Debs...following what others think too. 

X

Thanks so much for this Ian. I've emailed them today so await a reply, thanks for the signposting! 

I'm so sorry for your pain Debs. These last 9 months must have been so hard. Do vent here if it helps. Hope you have people around loving you through this. 

Liz X

Hi all,

it's really sad reading your stories, but I have to say also comforting. I lost my dad many years ago to lung cancer when I was 14. Then on 3rd January this year following a short battle with pancreatic cancer my mum passed away. I'm an only child and all my grandparents, aunts and uncles have also died. 

I have some truly amazing friends who have been there to support me. But they don't understand the pain and the loss of losing even 1 parent. They try to keep things 'normal' by talking about their own family plans, but it hurts so much to hear it.

I have been to counselling sessions and group sessions but as you've all said, everybody is late 40's or 50's. Of course they understand but sometimes I feel like I'm the only person under 40 in the world to be in this situation. I'm lucky enough to have had 2 beautiful children already but they are only little and my youngest will never remember his nana and my eldest has taken her death so badly that all my energy goes into supporting her. And with the loss of a support network for childcare this gives me zero time to grieve- a concept that a more mature griever might not experience.

If anybody knows of a group, or would like to start a group in the West Yorkshire area I would most definitely be interested.

Thoughts and love to all of you. Stay strong.