Young Adults who have lost a parent

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It appears within minutes of joining and have sent out lots of friend requests without any other posts or profile text.

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Hugs, G n' J

Hi,

I sadly lost my mum yesterday suddenly to cancer. I am 25 years old, my dad isn't around, it was just me and my mum living at home.  I am struggling with things too.  Hard to accept so many things in my life that she hasn't seen me do.  I am halfway through a degree and gutted she won't see me graduate.  Any support from anyone would be much appreciated.

Charlene

Hi, I'm new to the site and new to the group. I'm glad to have finally have joined a group where I can see that other people are in the same situation as me. I lost my mum to secondary breast cancer in April this year just 6 weeks after diagnosis. I can't quite believe it has happened and I feel as though I'm living in a dream world. It was just myself and my mum living at home and has been for as long as I can remember. Although I am in contact with other family members I wouldn't describe us as a close family. I am in contact with my dad and see him regularly, but have never lived with him so the relationship is quite different.

I am 23 years old, a newly qualified teacher, and have a very supportive partner, I just find it hard to open up and talk about how I'm feeling because being upset drains me completely. I wish, like all of you have said, that there was a support group for people of our age -having said that, could we not set one up? I've tried the meet up link but it doesn't seem to be working.

I have been for counselling at my local hospice but I just couldn't talk to the lady, who was at least 40 years my senior, as I found that although we had suffered losses, they were completely different and I just couldn't relate.

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Hi Benjamin

To be honest, I have felt a little like you describe and I am 12 years older than you. I have encountered so little sympathy in real life, with the exception of valued friends, because losing a parent is seen as something you accept and move on from. Well of course we all lose our parents in the end, but it is certainly very different for someone in your position losing your Mum compared with someone who's mother is in their 80s.

Myself, as a mum to two young children, I have felt the loss extremely deeply especially with the knowledge that my youngest child will grow up and really not remember her Granny at all. As a mother, I need MY mother, and she was ripped away from me too young.

So I really really sympathise with you. I even got in touch with Macmillan after my Mum died and asked for the name of this particular forum to be changed from Bereaved Friends and Family (which felt so excluding for me) to Bereaved Family and Friends. A tiny change, but at least it's something.

Take care x

Hi sorry to all for your loss im 34 and I feel I was robbed of time. I do feel for people that's had even less time . Cancer is just awful ripping families apart. My heart goes out to all x

Haven't been on here since this time last year, but thought I would come on and read some of the posts  that replied to me and give an update.

Still massively struggling. Most bereavement groups have people much older, in their 40s, who have lost their parent(s). Whilst it is tough to lose a parent at any age, I feel that it's worse when you lose your parent in your teens or as a young adult. Most people in their 40's who lose their parents have by then got their own family, a husband and kids as well as forged a life and career. Whereas, speaking for myself specifically, I lost my Mum (and only parent as my Dad left before I was born), right before my final year of university in 2012/13. It has affected me massively with regards to feeling motivated to go out work, get a gf, basically live my life. All the people around me who are my age have parents and it's just so different to those in their 40s, who will by then have friends who have lost a parent or both by then. 

Have you tried to set up your own group for young people who have lost a parent please?  Just an idea for you to mess around with.