Struggling to process his suffering

Hello Sarah (SarahB79) 

I am Brian, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community. I have just noticed your post has gone unanswered and by me replying it will be "bumped up" to the top of the page and I hope seen and answered by other members of the group.

Readring your post about your "lovely dad" touched a nerve with me as I know just what you have been through and am so sorry that you had to go through that. Whilst I am unable to recommend a good grief counselling service, here are a few ideas to help you find one.

* Does your local hospital have either a Macmillan Centre or a "Maggie's" centre - Either of these will have details of local counselling services. Why not bob in and see them?

* BACP is the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy. This is an online directory of accredited counsellors and can be found at www.bacp.co.uk or 01455 883300.

* Our Support Line is also there for you on 0808 808 00 00 (8am to 8pm 7 days a week). Do give them a call and I am sure they will be able to help.

I hope the above helps and you can move forward.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi SarahB79 

My name is Dylan and I work in the Online Community team here at Macmillan. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad and how you have been struggling to move on from how he suffered.

I hope you are able to find the support you need soon. Brian has left some great advice in his reply. I also wanted to let you know about two organisations that you might find helpful. 

Cruse bereavement care have a free confidential helpline where you can pick up the phone and speak to their team of trained bereavement volunteers on their helpline by calling 0808 808 1677, 7 days a week.

At A Loss is a national UK bereavement charity. You can use their search feature to find local bereavement services close to you. You could also make use of Griefchat, which is their free online chat with a trained grief counsellor. It’s available Monday – Friday, 9am – 9pm.

I hope that information is helpful, Sarah. 

Thank you Brian, that’s really helpful and much appreciated - unfortunately the hospital he was under did not have any MacMillan support, but I’ll have a look at the other suggestions you’ve made.

Thanks, that information definitely is helpful and much appreciated. 

Hello Sarah,

So sorry for the loss of your Dad and thank you for sharing 

I don't have counselling advice, but  I can relate. My Mum died in January. The pain you see them going through is unimaginable. To see someone you love so much, who is actually part of you, suffering so intensely and deteriorating. For me, thinking about it now, is like crumbling inside, the floor falling out. Like, no this can't be real, the suffering feels devastating. 

I hope this doesn't upset you further.