Loneliness of caring for a parent

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I lost my mother in my teenage years to this cruel disease, and watched it slowly take her away and break her, mine, and my little sister’s heart. My dad wasn’t great after she died (understatement) but we have improved relationship recently but he has been diagnosed now too 6 months ago and is deteriorating rapidly. He has a really tónix partner and I’m having to take on lots of caring responsibilities and he leans on me a lot for emotional support. I feel so helpless.I feel so angry all the time. It’s like a nightmare, worst possible fear imaginable, a decade apart, Watching both my parents have major , seemingly barbaric, operations that destroyed their quality of life is crushing me. I’m experiencing all my “friends”  disappear for the second time. At least before I could understand more as I was a child but I think it is realy true tha people show their true colours in your darkest time. I miss my mum. I fear for my dad. I hate these disease. Sending love to any bereaved teenagers or anyone struggling right now. I hope we all can find some peace one day. 

  • I am so sorry to hear about your really sad and distressing situation - you have had to manage this not once, but twice.  It is natural to have a whole, big melting pot of feelings as well as anger and this can feel overwhelming.  Disappearing friends don't always understand how painful this is on top of us watching a loved one lose everything including their health and their life.  I hope you can find some people to help you through this difficult time - sometimes people come forward who were more distant before.  Sometimes people will help if we ask.  Other's just can't manage our situation and withdraw.  If you feel it is the right thing to do, I suggest you let the people you know that you would appreciate some extra support right now and if they feel able to be of help you would be grateful and if they don't feel able to then you will understand.   I am sending you my warmest thoughts, Christine.