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  1. Hello everyone 
  2. I am hoping someone can relate to this. I'm not sure where to really begin so please bear with me. 
  3. I'm 35 years old and back in 2012 my dad passed away from cancer. It was a rare cancer that began in his gall bladder and spread to his liver. It was less than 12 weeks between us finding out it was cancer in the september and he passed away in the november. 
  4. My dad was my world. He was my best friend and losing him ripped my world apart. I don't think I ever really grieved for him. I threw myself back into university and my degree because I suppose stopping meant letting the pain and grief in. 
  5. Looking back losing my amazing dad was the trigger for my anxiety. I've always been an anxious person but since my dad passed, it was so much worse. People say don't overthink things ... you always go to the worst case scenario... thing is with my dad it WAS the worst possible scenario. 
  6. I met my amazing husband 2 years later in 2014 and we married in 2019. My husband is the most amazing partner. We have built the most amazing life together and love each other unconditionally. He is my rock and my safe place. I don't know what I would do without him.
  7. He went to the GP last week with pain im his elbow. He is a tradesman so we assumed it was a repetitive strain injury from work. He went to out of hours and a private physio as he couldn't get a GP appointment for a few weeks initially, and the doctor in out of hours and his physio both agreed it is likely a repetitive strain injury. 
  8. Anyway when he went to the GP last week, his GP's response was very different. He was cross that the out of hours doctor didn't get an ECG done and his GP has ordered an urgent ECG, bloods, and chest xray. His heart rate was normal, his blood pressure normal, but his GP said he wanted to give it a "belts and braces" approach.
  9. On top of that, he has a slight wheeze in his upper left lung. Husband is a smoker and has smoked since he was 16. He's now 40.
  10. As you can imagine my anxiety has spiralled at all this. I had a panic attack when my husband told me. I am utterly terrified there could be something wrong with him Sob I can't cope with the idea of losing him like I lost my dad and going through the pain of that again. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I'm calling him several times a day asking if he's ok while he's in work. I know this isn't normal but I can't help it. I'm terrified there could be something wrong.
  11. I'm obsessively googling things looking for answers but I've just convinced myself he has lung cancer or heart disease. He has his xray, ECG and bloods scheduled tomorrow morning and part of me doesn't want him to go because I'm so terrified of what they will find which I know is ridiculous.
  12. I'm just so petrified at the thought of losing my husband like I lost my dad. I don't know what to do Sob the "what ifs" are destroying me. 
  13. I'm sorry for my ramblings but if anyone can relate or has any helpful suggestions of how to cope with this crippling anxiety I'd be so grateful. 
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