Miss her more every day.

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I lost my partner in January of 2024 and have been dealing with grief since. It was quite a complicated relationship which I've been told has caused me to have complicated grief, which I thought I was dealing with up until maybe a month or 2 ago.

I just feel like there is an empty space in me , and I don't understand how people say it gets better with time , because the more time that passes , it's more time since I last seen her.

The sudden stop of caring for her , appointments and treatments etc feels like it out my body into shock. I never got to say goodbye either and it haunts me everyday.

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone is in a similar situation? Hope everyone is doing okay.

Thanks for reading

Malengwa 22 days ago

Hi Scotlandjc4526f. I am more recently bereaved than you, just 7 weeks, I certainly agree about the emptiness, the whole of my world feels empty.

Like you I was full time carer right until the end when the hospice supported him and sudddenly, its all gone. No more calling the dr, waiting for the district nurses, getting prescriptions, washing, comforting, taking to the toilet, adjusting pillows, persuading him to eat etc etc.

I am too early in my grief to know if it gets easier, but Ive heard many people say it doesnt, you just learn ways to cope.

Have you been able to access any counselling?

Also, there is a forum here just for bereaved spouses and partners, pop in there when you are ready, we're a pretty supportive bunch and everyone there gets it.

Virtual hugs coming your way. Keep talking.

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