Hello. This is my 1st time posting on here. We lost our Mum on the 20th of August. She had been in hospital since she got her diagnosis on the 11th July 2025, to try and build her up physically for treatment (she weighed 5st due to the cancer taking 3st off her) tried everything to get the weight on but the cancer was taking it off :( on the 19th she went to sleep, slept normally through the night (she had been told there was nothing they could do so was end of life) I stayed with her. On the morning of the 20th a nurse did her bp and told me get the family here now she didn't have long. She went peacefully surrounded by her children, husband (our Dad) and her sister. We miss her terribly but we know she's in a better place now. Macmillan Nurses were fantastic with her and the family and so were the nurse's and hca's in the hospital and rehabilitation unit before she got readmitted.
I HATE cancer. I hate how it makes the patient feel and how it makes the family/friends of the patient feel watching them in pain.
How are you finding being back at work ? Showing emotions are hard but try to even if you just say I’m not doing ok today it will help . Does your dad have any friends or neighbours around him ?
cancer is horrible I agree.
sending hugs
I live with my Dad. My daughter nips into check on him during the day before she starts work. It's strange it feels like she's on holiday if you know what I mean? I went to see her in the chapel of rest at the funeral directors and she looked peaceful. It feels weird being back at work but couldn't afford to stay at home any longer.
Hugs back to u
It will feel strange at first and you will get days or at least I did where you expect them to turn up or call but of course they don’t. I did the same thing I went to see my mum too she looked calm. I was in the same situation with work I had to go back for money reasons and I’m not good at being in a quiet house.
hugs x
No I recently bought my house and my family are all over so I don’t get to see them much it makes it harder
I'm sorry I'm lucky to have my sister's nearby
It’s ok yeah I get lonely sometimes dealing with it on my own
Big big big hugs for u. How r u feeling today?
A memory flashed up on my mobile of my Mum and my cat when we moved into our house. And one of her before she went into hospital and I had a few tears. Its her birthday Friday coming and we're dreading it in a way but we'll get together and celebrate her as best we can. I hope ur having a good day today
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