Hello all.
This is my first forum. My mom passed away 3 days ago from metastatic pancreatic cancer. She was diagnosed 2 weeks before her passing and prognosis was possibly 6 months. She was in hospital as she had a fall in her bathroom and diagnosis came from incidental finding. She never came home. 4 days before her passing, the consultant refused a care package for discharge home as felt she had more than 12 weeks and didn't see a decline (despite the fact she had gone from being active to bed bound). We had to appeal his decision and she was moved to a hospice Friday morning at 8am for palliative care and passed away 4 hours after arriving there. We have had no time as a family to process - she had not felt well 6 weeks previously but body scan was clear apart from some infection on her lungs - she was then diagnosed 6 weeks later with mets on lung, liver and kidneys and primary was found to be on the pancreas - we recieved this news on the 4th anniversary of losing dad after a 2 year battle with lung cancer.
We thought we were prepared - however their journeys were completely different and despite not suffering as long was a much less peaceful process with a lot more pain, terminal agitation and heartache for us.
We're taking every day one step at a time and this time there is a lot more to arrange and organise as there is the house to clear etc.
