Just need to vent I guess so I’m sorry if it’s just that. Lost my dad 10 months ago now, and it still feels so raw in so many ways. I had to go into work today, and while it was incredibly tough with the sadness that Father’s Day specifically has brought, I feel like the other feelings get talked about less. The anger has been real today, just seeing other young adults who are around my age with their dads has been quite hard. With the sadness you can of course cry to let it out, but the anger I have absolutely no idea what to do with really. I know that I’m not the only person who’s going through or ever will go through this but still it can just feel unjust sometimes. I miss him so much and sometimes I just feel angry at the fact that he isn’t here anymore. I’m in the middle of planning my wedding that he’s never going to be at. I have no idea who’s going to walk me down the aisle. I’m probably going to have to spend more time without him than with him. Again, sorry this doesn’t really have a point, sometimes even just a rant can help I suppose. Sending love to anyone else who’s found this day difficult xxx
Hi Poll177 welcome to the forum. I can relate to all that you are saying and have been there 6 years ago. It doesn't get any easier but the pure rawness of it all eases slightly. These kinds of daysare always going to be full of sadness but remember we are extremely lucky to have had dad's that were loved beyond measure
️. Thinking of you and sending hugs back for you. Gail x
Hello Poll177
I can relate to your post a little. My son got married in February this year Valentines weekend of all weekends. His dad wasn't there. My husband passed two years ago this coming Friday with bowel cancer and my son's wedding was two years in the planning. My husband was adamant he was going to be here for that and to see our little granddaughter start school this coming August but unfortunately cancer saw to that and he never made our son's wedding or see our little granddaughter start school. I got up and did a speech at the wedding in place of my husband and it got very well received my son and my now daughter in law done a lovely thing too and set out a remembrance table to all the loved ones who couldn't be with us on the day. Photos were arranged of my husband, my dad, my brother in law and his wife and my daughter in law's mother who passed away last year also to cancer and her grandmother the idea of it was people they grew up with and were an influence on them. My husband's father and my mother sadly passed when my son was only months old so he didn't really know them. This is something maybe you could think of if you haven't already had any ideas to remember your dad. It was a lovely day and I'm sure his dad and her mum were with us in some way too. My best wishes to you for your wedding and moving forwards. Take Care.
Vicky
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