Hello, I miss my dad. That’s how I feel every single minute of every single day. I still can’t believe he’s gone. It’s a month now since he passed and in the first couple of weeks I was busy organising the funeral and seeing the lawyer and now it’s starting to hit me that he really is gone. He was taken so suddenly that I didn’t get a chance to prepare. I was told at 6pm that there was nothing they could do and he passed at 1.20am. I just feel empty. He was the glue that held us together. He was still working and had no plans to stop. I’m sitting here on a lovely evening and I’m angry he isn’t here to watch the birds fly about the garden or the butterfly’s feeding on the flowers. I feel like part of me is missing and I’m constantly expecting him to walk in the door. He was such a strong courageous brave man and he didn’t deserve that. No one does. Sorry for the long post but I’m really struggling today.
Hi bikerdee1888 welcome to the forum and I so sorry to hear how sad that you are. I lost my dad 6 years ago now and it was sudden but at least I got 5 weeks with him . I can totally understand why you would feel cheated and a part of you will always be missing because he was your Dad. That said I have found myself over the years since my dad died thinking of how to tackle things or deal with different situations. I find myself thinking what would dad have said or done so they never ever truly leave you..In time you will recognise traits in you from your Dad and I hope like me you find it reassuring that he is a part of you and you a part of him always. Dad's are very special people on our lives and don't be scared to cry scream shout at the world because all of that's OK. Thinking of you and sending some huge big hugs your way for now. Gail x
Thank you so much Gail. I really really appreciate your reply. You know I’m finding myself doing that just now. If something needs done I think what would dad have done? He was the type of person who just got things done. I was out in the garden last night and I cut a bit of a tree that was getting out of hand and I thought how would dad cut this branch. Nothing was ever a bother and even in his last hours he was thinking about us and telling us we had to go on no matter how hard it would be. He was so brave in the face of death I still can’t get over it. But I know I have to just keep moving forward. It’s just so hard just now. I’m so grateful for your reply. Our dads were very very special to us and they will live on inside us forever. Big hugs right back to you and thanks again Gail x
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