I’m lost

Hi Lillipad and a very warm welcome to the online community which I hope you'll find is a supportive place to be.

I’m Anne, one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community and, although I'm not a member of this group, I noticed your post.

I'm so sorry to read that you've recently lost your husband and I wanted to pop on to suggest that you might want to join the bereaved spouses and partners group as you'll then connect directly with others who have lost a partner or spouse.

If this is something that you'd like to do, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.

((hugs))

Hi Lillipad!

I would say lovely to see you here but unfortunately it's a place most of us would rather not be. So sorry for your loss and that it happened so quickly. As latchbrook said please come on here when you feel you need to this or the Bereaved Partners and Spouses forum think it works both ways. This has been good for me to come here when I feel I need to. I lost my husband of 40 years just over 18 months ago coming up for two years this June to bowel cancer. He was opposite to your husband though and fought it for almost two years at one point going into remission only for it to return only months later. He was put back on chemotherapy but it was quite aggressive and damaged his kidneys so had to be withdrawn completely so after that they couldn't do anything else because of the stage he was at (4) they said nothing would really work for him so he was on borrowed time. Sepsis happened four times and it was on the 4th bout along with his advancing cancer that took him in June 2023. Some days I still don't believe he is gone and can still have dark days/weeks but just go with them now and know they will pass and leave just like unwelcome visitors. It is very early days for you and right now your head will be all over the place and that is natural. I won't just now say everything will get better because we all grieve at different levels but as I and latchbrook say when you feel you need scream, shout or vent about anything just come here as we all `get it`. Please take care and look after yourself. My best wishes to you. 

Vicky 

What lovely words. I wish I could express how I feel but as you say my head is all over the place- it still doesn’t feel real