Feeling low

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Hi,

My dad passed away on 21/02/25 from lung cancer. It all happened very quickly and from being told there was nothing that could be done for him to him passing was very quick(18 days) during this time he was in hospital, put on end of life, taken off end of life and fast tracked home to spend last few days at home. I work as a HCA in A&E so know a bit about end of life etc. but the speed of this happening has knocked me. I am constantly questioning myself as to whether I did enough for him and keep replaying the 2 weeks in my head.

  • I didnt want to read and run, my dad has just been told (over the phone) that the shadow on his lungs is cancer, he has been having treatment for bladder cancer. The thought of losing him is breaking parts of my heart off every day so I know how broken you must feel. You feelings are valid and relatable and part of your grief so please sit with them and remember your amazing dad. You did everything for him, please be kind to yourself x

  • Hi - I’m sorry you lost your Dad. My husband passed on 25th March having been diagnosed with lung cancer in February. I know what you mean by replaying in your head. I don’t have any advice just wanted to let you know I understand what you’re going through.

  • Thank you for replying 

    I am reading a book called Its ok that you’re not ok and its pretty goodBlush

  • Thank you for replying 

    I am reading book called Its ok that you’re not ok and its a good read Blush

  • Oh thank you I will have a look for that

  • Do you find it’s helping with anything you’re going through?

  • It explains a lot. The western world expects grief to be linear and staged (Kubler-Ross) but it isn’t everyone is different and you aren’t the person you were before they passed. It’s very interesting Blush