Mum passing

Hello Monkeys

I am really sorry to hear that your Mum has passed away and it is her funeral today.

It is naturally a very difficult time for you and your family and there is no right or wrong way to cope. I remember feeling a whole range of emotions and found it best to just go with the flow. At times I felt upset, at times numb and at times I felt like I was just going through the motions. 

Today is going to be hard at times but it is also a day to think of Mum and share some memories of her. I felt a great comfort in seeing others who also were not only grieving but were also celebrating her life. 

Take today, one step at a time and if you feel like you need to talk to someone later, then please do give the Support Line a call. 

I also found Home - Cruse Bereavement Support helpful. 

I hope that today goes as well as these things can. In the meantime, we are here if you need us.

Jane

Hi Monkeys,

Mine passed away on Wednesday and the funeral is in a week's time.  I don't have any words of advice to give you as I'm in a similar position but just wanted you to know you aren't alone.

Hi sending love and hugs my mum's funeral was on Monday and I feel totally broken. It's so final. Here if you want to chat

Thank you for your reply Monkeys. I hope your mum's funeral went as well as it could have. These things are never easy or nice. I hear what you are saying about how final it is because I still feel in limbo until the funeral. I'm so sorry and sending love to you.

I'm dreading my mum's fineral as her wishes for the service are not being respected due to a couple of difficult family members insisting on having things their own way. She even predicted this would happen with those exact individuals so I like to think if she is watching she will be rolling her eyes and shaking her head at them while laughing, because she is free of their drama. Unfortunately the rest of us will have to grin and bear their nonsense until it is over.

If you don't mind me asking, did your mum pass away after a period of terminal illness or was it very sudden? I hope you have a support network around you. I've discovered how bone-crushingly lonely this road is. I've been sad when people close to me have died but I wasn't as close to them as I was with my mum so I wasn't grief-stricken like I am now. She was my everything. 

The funeral went well exactly as she would have wanted.  Sorry to hear about your mum not getting the funeral she would like. My mum had acute myeloid leukemia and after the blood transfusion stopped working she rapidly deteriorated. She died peacefully in a hospice. Hope this helps. I took was very close to my. Mum.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm so glad to hear she was able to get into a hospice, the care is often very good. I'm glad you have the memory of the funeral going according to her wishes.

I'm happy to speak anytime if things get too much and usually just want to talk about the grief or your mum, or rant, anything really.

Take care xxx