Lost and lonely

I feel exactly the same,I'm not even doing Christmas,I expect how we are feeling is normal.were grieving,message me on here anytime

I am not doing Christmas either, we are grieving for sure. Take care of yourself and message me anytime too.

I feel exactly the same recently bereaved . Not looking forward to Christmas

Hi!

So sorry for your loss. You do what you think is right and if it means not having Christmas (which is understandable) then don't. Think if I had just lost my husband round about this time I would be in the same frame of mind. I lost my husband in June last year (2023) to bowel cancer and sepsis. Had my first Christmas last year without him and just went in a blur think because I was only months in from losing him so still processing the loss.  Spent it with my son and his partner and my little granddaughter. Feel it this year as it's been a whole year without him so had more time to reflect I think. Miss him stressing about Christmas dinner as that was his thing he loved cooking. Would cook for an army and there would only be 3 of us (my older sister would come to us for Christmas). Plan is to go to my sons again this year then just come home again. Suits me. Like my own company luckily but will have `sis` as well but she has learning difficulties so I look after her and she stays with me over the Christmas holiday in between then and New Year. She lives in assisted living accommodation not far from me within walking distance where there is a live in warden so goes home for a few days then comes back. That suits me too. Couldn't have her live with me on a permanent basis just now beginning to appreciate my own space and she can be difficult to live with at times but I'm nearby when she needs me. She too has just fought bowel cancer and came out the other side and five years ago had breast cancer and fought that too. She's independent and can go out on her own but needs me for other things like hospital appointments, banking needs and things in authority and getting in food shopping etc. I wish you well in moving forward. Take Care. 

Vicky x