My brother was diagnosed with cancer in the summer of 2021, he had a tumour removed and was given the all clear by January 2022. By April 2022 he was terminal. He passed away 2 weeks ago, aged 28, following a short spell in Hospice care. We weren't with him when he passed and I am really struggling with not only the loss of him, but also feeling guilty that I let him down by not holding his hand to the very end.
I don't know how to function without him as he was my best friend.
I am a Funeral Director by trade and am focusing myself on making the funeral arrangements, but I am scared of how life will look once that is over and everyone goes back to their usual lives.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Please don’t feel guilty about not being with your brother at the end. If you can say your brother was your best friend he will know you loved him, he will know you were thinking of him.
You will find a way to live a new normal, it’s hard but gradually you do adjust. The pain you feel is a reminder how lucky you were to have such a special relationship with him.
Whatever cancer throws your way, we’re right there with you.
We’re here to provide physical, financial and emotional support.
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