Lost both parents this year

Hi Toppy Welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear your news. My sincere condolences on both of your losses. Losing our parents is hard enough when it happens but to lose both in such a short space of time must feel devastating for you. Both of my parents have gone now as well, my most recent 4 years ago with my dad, so I can completely relate to all that you are saying about the firsts.

You need be silent no more as we all can relate to your sadness and how that affects us in our lives, so please don't hold it in, we are here as often as you need us to be. 

A lovely new life is about to come into yours and whilst your parents loss will weigh heavy on you, how joyous that a new life is coming and they may not be there in person but they are always with us in our hearts.

Sending some huge big hugs your way for now. x

Toppy, what can I say. What a sad story, of course you miss them and will find certain points in your life very difficult without them. Don’t think you can’t still talk to them, of course you can, even though they aren’t with you.

It’s now time for you to change your focus.  That wee grandbaby will be here soon, you say you’re dreading Christmas but your mum and dad wouldn’t want that for you or your family. Double down, plan a great celebration in their honour, set them a place at the table and raise a glass to them.  Surround yourself with incredible memories of them, encourage others to talk about them, it really helps. this year will be hard, but each year will get easier.

sending you a huge hug, good luck with the delivery and if you’re sad or want to talk about them, we’re here to listen xxx

Aww Thanks Gail, I have been a member of the Lung cancer forum since Mum diagnosis but found it hard to come back and read all the heartbreak.  Every single person is so brave, whether they have it or watching.  You kindness is really appreciated xx

Terri

Oh my goodness, Thank you so much.  You have the kindest heart and I appreciate it.  Their house has been on the market, so can't go and sit a while, just to sit in their seats but it has now just sold, so we will be clearing out and taking memories home. I am not sure what I expected when they died, I see people who have lost loved one and they are broken, I just have constant what feels like heartburn.  Mum we knew and had time to spend everyday with her, Dad was unexpected but I think we knew he wouldn't be far behind, could never be without her xx  The new baby, oh they will be there and reveling in another wee bundle, this was my mums last wish for my daughter (to the point of nagging).  Daughter did manage to tell her but she was so out of it in the last week but we do think she heard.

I don't know why these last few days have been a bit sad, I suppose it comes in all shapes and wavesxx

Thank you for you kind words xx