12 moths ago, mum was diagnosed with Small Cell Stomach cancer, she as told she would only have 12 month to live, and this was correct, 12 month to the day. mum dies at home with mw and my wife by her side as she did not want to go to the Hospice.
I cared for my mum , attended every appointment and Chemo session, and each time watched the life drain out of mum.
The past few weeks of my mums life was very cruel. lots of pain, loss of her independance, loss of sight and loss of weight, mum was just fading away before my eyes. mum passed on the 16th August 2023 and i feel so lost.
The lack of support during the final months of my mums life, the support from anyone was none existance. the support since mums passing there is none.
I don`t know why i am even writting on the forum, as we had no help, support or guidance from anyone.
Just feel so angry and hurt and angry.
There is suposed to be all of the cancer support groups and support mechanisms, but there was nothing. Mum fighted until the very end, such a powerful and strong lady, never once did she complain, just just wanted to fight this horrid disease.
I am sorry for your loss. I do feel and understand your pain. My mum passed away 25/02/23 to ovarian cancer. It still doesn’t seem real I won’t see her again. It’s too much to bare.
My mum wanted to live and fought so hard. She didn’t ask for the world she just wanted to live in it. life is so cruel and unfair.
I miss my mum more than anything in the world and the pain is nothing like anything I have ever gone through.
my mum lived with me and I also cared for her, went to all her appointments and chemotherapy with her. It was brutal and like yourself the end is awful to watch. Memories that I can’t get out of my head.
I wish I had words to offer you that would help right now. Sending you lots of love.
So Sorry for your loss. I lost my husband to bowel cancer on 23/6/2023 almost two months ago and it hurts like hell. I still can't comprehend that it's real and he is not here anymore. I miss him so much. I miss the banter we had the windups we used to do to one another. He made me laugh and that's something that has been missing for a long time. I can't cry for him although I did plenty of crying when he was going through his treatment- I never stopped and just cried at the drop of a hat and for that I feel that the pain is just eating away at me inside. I just want to have one big outburst and hope I feel better after it. He fought this for almost 2 years and at one point he did beat it but it came back for him 5 months later after getting the all clear and this time decided it was taking him which I think makes it all the more worse for me. We have been robbed of so much the life we had and the life we should be having. He only got 4 years out of his retirement retiring at 65 and he was 69 when he passed. Fifty years he worked with hardly a sick day in his life and very seldom visited a GP or hospital for any ailments and when he retired seemed like an everyday occurrence. Both our families have been blighted by cancer also. He lost his dad and brother to it and I lost both my parents to it. My sister had breast cancer four years ago in its very early stages but they managed to get it on time so I suppose that was a plus her identical twin died way back in the 1960's from a brain tumour when she was only 16 years old. My sister is 71 now. So yes cancer is an absolute beast of a disease and doesn't care where you come from who you are or what you do. If it wants you, it'll take you. God Bless you and my Best Wishes to you.
xx
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