8 months on. Nowhere near healing :(

Hi,

First of all, I am very sorry for your loss, and second of all, you are not stupid. You are a human being that has lost a partner and naturally, is heart broken. I’m sorry you do not feel like you have any support from others, have you considered bereavement counselling at all?

I am only nearly 3 months in to losing my Dad, 7 months from diagnosis to losing him but it was unexpected. I don’t really have any advice other than I talk about him, I look at his photos and videos, I cry everyday, I think about him 24/7 and wish more than anything he was here. I am taking it one day at a time, at the moment I don’t feel ready for any counselling but I have been told it really does help, if you are ready for it.

Please come on here anytime and talk/vent etc everyone on here knows what you are going through, you are not alone on here.

I hope you can find some comfort from this group and please don it think you are stupid in any way.

Lucie x 

Thank you. I've started writing a diary to him every day telling him all the things our son is doing. That really helps. Our son's degree graduation ceremony is in July and it breaks my heart that he cant be a proud dad in the official photos. I also have a virtual memorial site where I can light candles for him. I am trying to move on, but having no funeral means I couldn't say goodbye and it feels as if he's going to walk through the door at any minute

My husband lost his Mum unexpectedly when he was 19, he is now 35. She died abroad and had to be cremated out there and her ashes were flown back, he never got to say goodbye but they had a memorial for her when they got back.

It’s very hard as you also have a son, you are grieving for your partner and also the father of your son. 8 months isn’t a long time, I spoke to a friend yesterday who lost her Dad nearly 3 years ago and she said she still has bad days but you will look at photos etc and smile rather than cry but she said it all takes time. 

x