His first birthday in heaven

Hi

i just wanted to reply and say I feel you pain. I lost my Dad 5 weeks ago today, not a day has passed that I haven’t cried and I miss him terribly that it hurts. I still cannot believe he is gone. I dread the first of everything without him.

I can imagine it will be hard to celebrate another birthday around the time of your Dad’s, I’m sure your in-laws will understand. I’d usually tell people to put on a brave face but understandably it’s too raw and sometimes in a time like this you just cannot pretend you are happy because it hurts too much.

I hope you get through the day and all I’m doing at the moment is taking things day by day.

Take Care x 

Hi, just wanted to reach out and say too i feel your pain.  Lost my dad in September 21' after only learning 8 weeks earlier he was extremely ill with cancer.  Like you we had planned a 70th birthday celebration for him the year earlier that had to be cancelled due to lockdown and he sadly had to celebrate his 71st birthday, alone in hospital two weeks before he passed away, none of us allowed to visit due to covid rules and him suffering  cognitive difficulties due to brain mets.  Dreading this August as it will be nearing the one year anniversary of his death too.  My mum turns 70 in April and this is going to be difficult for us all as it brings it back just how we missed celebrating these milestones with our dad and she shouldn't have to be celebrating this big birthday without her husband by her side!   Trying to remain positive and remember Dad wouldnt want us all to be sad and for life to ultimately end just because he cannot be here.  I remain hopeful that somewhere out there he can be with us in spirit and to celebrate these times as life is so fragile and a gift.  Trying to do it in his honour! Wish you all the best and sending so many positive thoughts your way.  

• I’m so sorry for your loss it’s all still raw & you can only go a day at a time. Sending you hugs xx 

I’m so sorry for your loss too. I totally understand how your feeling. My mums 70th is next year & don’t seem fair. Also that he won’t be here for my 50th neither. But as you said our dads wouldn’t want us to be sad. I will go up to his grave Friday on his birthday with my mum & put some flowers up their. It will be a hard day but I will try my best to be strong  

sending hugs xx