The Day After The Funeral

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Evening all,

I don’t really know what I wanted to come in here and say tbh. I had my Dad’s funeral yesterday, it’s still a very surreal feeling that I have actually just had my Dad’s funeral. I don’t know what I’m feeling today but I just have a sadness/emptiness cloud all the time. some days I start off feeling OK but as the day goes on I become more emotional. He died on 8th February, nearly a month ago. My family are very close and we have been spending a lot of time together, I get comfort being at my parents house (it will always be Mum and Dad’s house) everything is still as it was before he went to hospital.

I just can’t accept he won’t walk through the door. I went to the Chapel of Rest 3 times, I didn’t say goodbye because I can’t and I don’t want to. To get myself through I don’t believe I am saying goodbye to him because he will always be around.

I know people say it gets easier, you find your new normal etc but I can’t accept it.

Ghaz over 2 years ago

My 24 years old son died three weeks ago after stem cells transplantation. He had non Hodgkin Lymphoma. He stayed in ICU (UCLH hospital) for 6 days but died there, It is so devastating for me as mother

BK98 over 2 years ago

So sorry about the loss of your dad. I just lost my mom to cancer. And all that I can really offer is that you need to give yourself time. be kind to yourself. You’ve just suffered a tremendous loss.

Beth K

CT, USA

Essex1 over 2 years ago in reply to BK98

Ghaz. I am so sorry for your loss. Sometimes I do not understand why life turns out this way. Sending you my condolences. I have 3 children myself and cannot imagine your pain.

BK98. Sorry for your loss. Day by day is all we can do at the moment, I just wish Cancer didn’t exist.

Tigger462 over 2 years ago

Today marks 5 years since I lost my Mum. I think I'm still in a fairy world about it. Kept waiting for the breakdown but it didn't come. I didn't visit her in the Chapel and never saw her when she wasn't breathing and also don't recall her funeral (but I know I went). Its all very normal - grief is so unique and we each find a coping mechanism. It doesn't necessarily get easier but it does become less raw & life goes on. You do what helps you.

My Mum is part of my life everyday still and I'm having a special day for her today.

I'm so sorry for your loss x

Love and Hugs x

Washerwoman over 2 years ago

So sorry for you. My husband died Feb 7th funeral was March 1st,i feel like I'm existing not living, my family live 3 hours away so I'm totally alone.

Essex1 over 2 years ago in reply to Washerwoman

Hi Washerwoman,

I am so sorry for your loss. I also wish your family lived closer for you, I can imagine that’s hard. You must try and look after yourself though, which is hard I know. Today is another tearful day for me, currently waiting in the car about to watch my son play football and having a good cry before I watch his match.
I know it doesn’t mean much but please post on her or send a message if you need to chat or just vent.

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