My Amazing dad

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It’s been just over 3 weeks since my amazing kind hearted dad passed away due to pancreatic cancer, to say I miss him doesn’t even come close to it 

my dad was one in a million, see they say you have one superhero and for me he was mine. He would help absolutely anyone at any point, well he was the one you turned to if you needed anything from advice or financial help. 
the craziest thing is like we as a family knew he didn’t have long but once we got told it went completely down hill but it still hasn’t sunk in that he’s gone now gone forever. Miss waking up from morning texts from him miss speaking to him every day even when I didn’t want to some of the times. 

The craziest thing is I’ve dealt with people passing away like my grandad but this pain is completely different, for some reason I’ve not cried since that night he passed away, I think the problem is I’ve never experienced that much heartache ever.
until we meet again love you for ever dad x  

  • Hi Con97 welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your beloved dad. I can relate very much to your post as my Dad also died with Pancreatic Cancer and we got 5 weeks with him from diagnosis to him slipping quietly away. Sadly by the time we found out about my dads Cancer it had spread extensively and time was very short. I don't know how you ever come to terms with that heartache I can only say to you that time is a great healer and I never ever believed thta but it is true.

    I miss my dad as well and Im further down the line time-wise  than you, but that loss will be with me every day of my life and I miss him popping in for a cuppa and a chat and just generally miss his presence, so I can appreciate totally how you may be feeling.

     I don't know what to say except that I am thinking of you and just take each day as it comes something may happen that will trigger that need to have a good cry and it may take you completely unawares.

    Thinking of you. 

    gail

     
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  • Hi 

    I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. 

    I lost my dad to pancreatic cancer 6 weeks ago and the heartache is unbearable. Up until the last week or so I was in complete shock but now I think the shock is subsiding and the reality is starting to hit me. My dad was diagnosed in January 2019, he had the operation and then chemo and everything seemed ok until this year in which he because severely depressed due to lockdown. We found out on the 11 August the cancer had returned (which he knew about and never told us) and died 14th August on my mum’s birthday. A month before this I gave birth to my second son so the last few months have been very difficult. 

    It’s still very raw at the moment and I am struggling to even imagine how my life will be without him but we will get through it day by day.

    If you ever want to chat please let me know x

  • Hi

    i am so sorry you are going through this. I lost my dad on 26th September to lung cancer. The pain I feel is unbearable. I don’t know how to get through this. 
    I still don’t think it is real. It hasn’t sunk in. I see it still hasn’t for you. Will it ever? Will it ever feel real? 
    I just can’t believe this is happening. 
    I just can’t believe I’m never going to speak to him again. As horrible as it is that you are going through this, perhaps we can be helpful to each other? Share our experiences of grief?