Finding out you have cancer can be overwhelming and it’s normal to experience a range of emotions. During this time, connecting with others who understand what you're going through can offer much-needed comfort and support. If you have just been diagnosed, or you’re supporting a loved one who has, the Online Community is here for you.
The shock of hearing the words “You have cancer” can leave you feeling uncertain about what to do next or how to even express what you're going through. Some members have found that just saying “hi” and acknowledging their feelings helps ease the initial isolation.
"Not really sure what else to say, I'm obviously still in shock but just wanted to say hi."
Community member - Womb cancer forum
After receiving a cancer diagnosis, it's perfectly normal to feel detached, confused, or even numb. There is no right or wrong way to feel.
"Hi. Completely new here. I feel very numb and can't get it off my mind. Is this a normal way to feel?"
Community member - New to the Community forum
Decision-making is another overwhelming aspect of a new diagnosis. Many Community members write about dealing with difficult choices early on. In the Community, you can connect with others who’ve faced similar decisions and learn from their experiences.
"Im new here and need to make a decision. I'm terrified of waking up looking horrific, the thought of a mastectomy terrifies me as it feels so final. I'm hoping to make a decision by the end of the week but I'm struggling."
Community member - Breast cancer forum
Sometimes, people react in ways they didn’t expect. You might even question your own response to the diagnosis.
"I am newly diagnosed with male breast cancer. I am also waiting to see if I have prostate cancer too. All my friends are freaked out by this but I have totally taken it in my stride. I feel unaffected by it to the point that I think that I am weird for my lack of reaction. Has anyone else experienced this?"
Community member - Cancer chat forum
The Online Community isn’t just for those who are living with a diagnosis. It’s a space for caregivers, family members, and friends too. Carers often find it difficult to know how to support their loved ones while managing their own emotions.
"My husband is newly diagnosed…. I am so anxious, please can anyone offer me reassurance.”
Community member - Prostate cancer forum
There’s so much to learn from those who have walked a similar path. Earlier this year, we asked members to reflect on the day they were diagnosed and share what advice they would give themselves if they could go back in time. These insights were compiled into a blog, which you can read by clicking here.
If you’ve recently been diagnosed with cancer, there are many resources available through Macmillan to help you understand your diagnosis and the next steps. Whether it’s information about treatments or emotional support, we’re here for you every step of the way. You can find out more on the link below.
Just been diagnosed? | Macmillan Cancer Support
If you’d like to share your experience or have a question, please leave a comment below or start a new discussion in one of our forums.
