If I could go back to the day of my cancer diagnosis

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If I could go back to the day of my cancer diagnosis

The moment of a cancer diagnosis can feel like stepping into uncharted territory, bombarded with unfamiliar terms and overwhelming emotions. As we approached the end of 2023, we posed some questions to the Online Community, inviting members to reflect on the day of their diagnosis.

“If you could go back and speak to yourself at the time of diagnosis:

  • What words of comfort, advice or encouragement would you offer?
  • What lessons have you learnt that you wish you knew from the start?
  • What wisdom or guidance would have made a difference?”

Community members replied with some profound insights and reflections. Here are snippets from some of the members’ responses.

Reflections from the Online Community

We’d love to hear from you

If you would like to take a moment to add to the discussion, feel free to post your reflections or thoughts in the comments below. Your shared experience and insights can offer invaluable support and encouragement to those who might be at the beginning of their cancer journey.

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You are not alone

If you are struggling today and in need of support, it's important to remember that you don’t have to go through this alone. Someone at Macmillan would love to chat with you. Our support team are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00, email or live webchat.

  • I would not have asked the nurse to check out the small lump under my arm. She immediately spoke to the doctor and the whole business have made chaos in my life for 2.5 months so far. It’s been a roller coaster and I wish I had not been diagnosed as I’m refusing anything but hormonal treatment and my peaceful life has been badly disrupted. 

  • I wish they told me these plans can change as we will be doing a few more scans. I was told it would be a lumpectomy early December and a little bit of radiotherapy. But more things were found, so things got pushed back and plans changed several times. I understand they were being thorough to give me the best pathway. But should have warned me things could change. Its been a rolletcoaster of emotions and 4 months later had a mastectomy and that was because of daily chasing. NEVER feel a nuisance to ask anything as often as you need to.

  • When I was diagnosed with cancer in my spine and prostate I treated nurses and doctors bad .I'm sorry for what I done I'm waiting for chemotherapy. My life as changed forever. I wanna se  Birmingham City win fa Cup and m u 

  • The day i was diagnosed, that was going to be a special year, for our family. Was my hubbys 70th birthday, our golden wedding, and eldest grandson getting married.

    I never thought from that day, i would see any of them, though i did, i was positive from day one and stubborn.

    Been a long journey at times, i trust my oncologist, , and in all this time, have never seen anther one..

    I have learnt so much, really about myself some good and some bad, i i stand up for myself, which i never done before diagnosis, having this stage 4 from day one, i help others, on this site, as much as i can, if possible.

    Cancer does not define me, i am still me, and my cancer is at the back of the queue 

  • Hi  

    It's Steph here from the Community team. Thank you for commenting on Dylan's blog, although I am sorry to hear that you feel like you wish you had not been diagnosed.

    I hope it is helping to be able to talk everything through with members in the breast cancer forum.

    I remember you saying that you have been struggling with some of the abbreviations in the research papers shared. Please remember that you can also ask questions to our experts and speak to our Support Line about how you are feeling. 

    Our Support Line teams are available 7 days a week, 8am-8pm on freephone 0808 808 00 00email or live webchat.

    Take care, SMP and please do keep talking on the forums. We are here for as long as you need us.