Anger ? Asked by my DR

Dear, I have a different kind of cancer to you but I also have never felt angry about my diagnosis, I felt disappointed with elements of my treatment by the the nhs administrative system but speaking from a personal perspective I consider cancer a random thing which respects no boundaries so anger isn’t an emotion that I seem to generate organically. I know others feel differently and in some cases it even helps them deal with a difficult situation when they have a enemy they believe they can wage war against. That’s not for me, I simply don’t have the energy as I am still receiving full time treatment after 19 months, maybe it’s something that happens later on when you are trying to move forward with your life whilst having to deal with the ramifications of the upheaval in your life that cancer causes.

Hello ladies

the only anger I’ve felt is towards myself! Funny how we can blame ourselves for something we don’t really have any control over!

Hello Genetti,

I completely understand where you are coming from. I had my hysterectomy for other reasons than cancer. I went from being an active 50 yr old to being told that I had stage 3 incurable endometrial cancer. I sometimes think that my lack of anger and anxiety is as a result of receiving my diagnosis out of the blue. I only agreed to having a hysterectomy as endometriosis had blocked my kidney. My primary surgery was my kidney removal, so agreeing to having a hysterectomy at the same time had pretty much saved me from receiving a terminal diagnosis. Hence my lack of anger I think?

I take the view that I can’t do anything about it, so anger would be counter-productive. The same also goes for anxiety. My friends and family do all the worrying for me! I can’t control the outcome, so I concentrate on the present day and not the ‘what if’’. I appreciate that I’m in the minority here and that this approach doesn’t work for everyone, however it has helped me accept my incurable situation. 

I wish you all the luck in the world with your future tests and hope the results are the best that they can possibly be.

Liz x

Thank you Liz...xoxo