Hair thinning

Honestly, if you've only recently had surgery, it's probably a bit soon to be associating hair loss with what's happened to you. Other than the sense of 'shock and awe' that comes with getting a cancer diagnosis which could cause some hair loss, it's highly unlikely you're going to end up needing a wig.

Hair thinning can happen when your thyroxine dose isn't optimised - too much or too little can both mess with your hair - but such changes are generally temporary and will go back to normal once you've got it sorted.

My hairdresser always noticed if my dose had changed significantly - got finer, got coarser, got thinner or thicker - but please don't panic. 

Hi

Thanks for replying. Your advice is very similar to my mum’s! Just a complete mix up of emotions at the moment and prob need a good haircut as it’s been over 6 months due to lockdown and having my 2 cancer operations. Looking into eating a good diet and getting the vitamins needed to strengthen my hair. Confidence rock bottom and want to start dating but feel so unattractive. 
But I’m alive ……,

Be gentle with yourself. You've been through a lot.

My husband was hospitalised for Covid last April. I told him when he came out that if he EVER died on me there was absolutely no way I could put myself through online dating to replace him so it was a good job he made it through.

Can I gently suggest that asking friends for friends of friends who might like to date is a much nicer and less harsh way to go looking for love these days. Build yourself up again before you take on the brutal world of online dating if you possibly can. 

I recently hired a beautiful woman to work with my old company. She has total alopecia, is as bald as an egg, and absolutely rocks that style with the most incredible confidence. If she can do that with no prospect of the hair coming back, then I absolutely believe you can handle the trauma of temporary thinning. And it's very likely that a good hairdresser will make you feel way better. My husband told me deep into the first big lockdown when my hair hadn't been cut for over 5 months "You're starting to look like Kate Bush, but not in a good way".

I def look like Kate Bush!! Refraining from heat products and chemicals and I look wild!! In my job I take pride in my appearance and concerns me that my colleagues (who I have not seen in 7 months) will think I’ve let myself go!? Hoping to get hair cut/tidy somewhere very soon as can’t go to my usual hairdresser as it’s too far from where I’m living at mo. Maybe after a tidy I might feel better. Will do everything I can to help my hair - hardest thing is to stop stressing!! 
I hope your husband made a good recovery from Covid? 

I have some old date contacts that want to see me again but I worry that I’m not the same person as they liked on the outside. I know it’s what’s on the inside that matters but the outside is just as important even if they deny this!! Just want to be my usual strong independent self again and be in control as feeling so useless.

Sorry about the whinging - having a tough day today. Struggle sleeping, concentrating and relaxing which makes everything seem ten times worse than on a stronger day.

hope you are keeping well after your experience?!

Whinge away. Nobody will mind and nobody will judge you. This heat doesn't help either - nobody sleeps well when it's hot and if you're anything like me, I was getting horrible night sweats in the months after surgery even though it was the middle of winter.

And try not to worry about looking a bit different. Most of us are less polished, a bit wilder, a bit fatter after a year in yoga pants, but you're much more interesting for what you've been through.  Just let your potential dates know that you have absolutely no plans to drop down dead anytime soon and ban them from reading that horrible John Green book 'The Fault in Our Stars' or they'll expect the worst and whisk you off to Amsterdam for the experience of your life. 

Hang on in there.  You're getting better every day - it just doesn't always feel like it. 

Thanks for understanding Barbara - please feel to have a whinge in return to me.
Having a wallowing day - this seems to be irritating my mum as all she wants to do is make me smile. She’s an amazing support but need her to understand that I don’t want to smile today. Told her I’d stay in my room so that I wasn’t depressing her but she has told me not to do that - I can’t win today!

Going to go for a walk now and get some space and sunbeams.

Thank you for today and your wise words.

Stay safe and hope to hear from you again.