Just diagnosed

Thanks Brian much appreciated.

Kind regards James.

Glad nothing serious. Get some warmth on the pain, always helps.

Thanks Sidsmum. Much appreciated.

I have been doing some thinking ( A little dangerous for me I know) The Specialist told me that there is a 20% chance of these Legions being Cancer. One in Five. I just don't know how I will cope if they are. I am not as good as most of you on here at coping with bad news or illness. It's the tests, treatment and waiting for results that really scares me. Sorry.

Kind regards James.

Hi James, 

Don’t be sorry, everyone here is in the same boat and I’m sure everyone has been scared too at one point.  You are not facing it alone, everyone in this group will support you all the way. I know what you mean about waiting and dreading results.  My husband was diagnosed with prostate cancer in May and had to have, bone scan, CT scan and then biopsy, waiting to see Oncologist for first appointment on 24 th August and the waiting is always difficult but he has been started on hormone injections in the meantime.  Everything has a process I’m afraid but people in this group have helped me no end with their knowledge, advice and humour (yes I mean you Brian lol).  20 percent chance is very low risk so that should ease your worry somewhat but I understand even 1 percent can be worrying, especially as you suffer from anxiety already. Stick with the group as Brian said and everyone will help you as much as they can.  A trouble shared is always a trouble halved and there is much more strength to help carry you through in this fabulous group of warriors and their partners.

Stay positive James, you will get through this.

Linda

Hi James

As Linda says, 20% is pretty low risk but if you are a worrier that may not be much comfort to you.

We are all here to help you along your journey but I wonder if you may be able to get some medical help for your anxiety in the form of some medication to give you a temporary boost. If you haven't already, why don't you speak to your GP and see if they can help.

I am not religious, but lots of people will look to their faith for reassurance.

Whatever your beliefs, a positive attitude will be far better for you all round, if you can muster up the strength to move away from negative thoughts. Easier said than done I know. Have you thought of counselling to help you get through this? Not sure if it is available in your area, but may be worth investigating.

Best regards

Gina

Hi James

What else can I say that Linda and Gina haven't said. I know we are all different and our attitude to things and how we view everything is very individual.

When I received my diagnosis I uttered those two most used words regarding cancer "Why Me". In a sense I am lucky as I am married to a nurse, and we had a long discussion as to the way forward. She knew I would answer  "I am going to fight this bastard all the way"

In the last 18 months it's been a journey for me - it has had it's ups and downs - I have had a couple of "dark days" where I thought the world was against me (I nearly died with acute kidney failure!) - but with the help of my wife (Thanks Lorraine!) the medical staff and the online community I am where I am today.

All the appointments and tests you are waiting for are all with the aim of being "curative" and the medical profession have your best interests at heart., remember we all want you to recover and if there is bad news - 20% chance - I would have a bet on that not being cancer - there are treatments and cures.

Don't let your mind go into overdrive - you have hobbies - dive into those, treat yourself to some new online games and immerse yourself away from the worry.

As Linda said - I use dark humour at times and it helps me - I renamed the radiotherapy treatment the "sunbed" , I am on the "MANopause" and I know it's a serious situation but it helps me cope!

You are doing great - just by being here and sharing your fears, emotions and anxiety - we are here for you - I've been there got the T-Shirt and will be with you every step of the way.

Best wishes

Brian 

Thank you so much guy's you have given me some hope. I am already boosted on Lorazepam and anti-depressant tablets. It's the OCD that gets me everytime. It really is a dreadful illness and I would not wish it on anybody. I really appreciate your help with this. I suppose I am lucky to get to the age I am before hearing the C word. Many don't. Thank you again.

Kind regards James.

Hi James, I've read through all of this before replying. I have a very unworrying PC diagnosis compared to most on here, but it wreaked havoc with my thought processes and emotions for the first few months so I know how it can mess with the mind. I called up the Macmillan support line and they arranged some counselling sessions, which were set up really quickly and which I found very helpful. You could ring them 0808 808 00 00.

 Hi,

Thank you so much Sean1959 I will do as you suggest. Sorry I have been away for a bit but I am trying to think through this before I go for my Cystoscopy on Wednesday and get myself mentally prepared for it.

Kind regards James.

Hello James,

Good luck tomorrow, I hope it goes as well for you as it can.

Sean.