My husband has stage 4 prostate cancer with mets in lymph nodes and liver. Had good response to chemo last year. Since September he has had increasing problems with pain in left leg. Treated for gout, told could be nerve damage from chemo, etc. Finally following scans he’s been told he has 3 tumours! One under knee, one in ankle and one in heel. Certainly explains the pain! Having radiotherapy next week to try to address pain. Very debilitating- poor mobility due to pain. Managed with morphine. On crutches around house. Bed now downstairs. Needs a wheelchair if we leave home. We just are stunned how quickly a cancer diagnosis completely changes your life. We are now getting amazing practical support from palliative care team. Just wondered how other people are coping with the emotional upheaval while supporting their loved ones through these challenging times.
Hi Jen19
It is extremely upsetting, seeing and being with your partner while all this is happening. The feeling of helplessness watching and not being able to do anything is exhausting. People might ask how he is doing and maybe ask the same question of yourself, they have no idea unless it’s happened to them.
I’am a stage four, have been for nearly five years, believe me when I say I’ve had a few nasty moments, all the time my wife has sat and watched, unable to help, for instance the last three weeks, I’ve had kidney stones ( hospitalised ) and a caterax operation on one eye ( just recovering ) the first when we were in hospital it took four/five hours while she sat there as I was up and down with pain. My wife has been with me on every visit doctors or hospital just sitting there, the stress and strain on her is unbearable.
So yes we may be the people with this horrible disease, but you ladies ( and I’ve said it many times on here ) are the ones who are with us daily and feel what we’re going through.
Bless you all, without you this journey would be a nightmare.
Stay safe.
Joe
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