Hello
Very new to this forum so please forgive me if this has already been discussed.
Unfortunately, in September this year my grandfather was diagnosed with prostate cancer which has spread into the bones.
One day after diagnosis the cancer in the femur ruptured the bone leaving my grandfather unable to walk and as a result he has been in care since.
Over the past month I have noticed that my grandfather is getting increasingly confused and frustrated (understandably). I just wondered if there was anyone who knows what the progression would be like for him? and what things are 'normal' with this diagnosis.
At the moment we are aware of cancer in the femur, pelvis, lower and upper spine and back of the head. He is in his 90s so other than pain relief (which is helping) we've been advised there is not the option of treatment due to age and heart conditions. He is also looking very frail now, which I'm not sure if it's age related or cancer related. The care home advised that he has gained weight since being cared for in there.
I'm just wondering if anyone has similar experiences which they would be willing to share, just so we can have an idea of what the next few months/years (?) will bring. The family are starting to struggle with the change in personality, knowing whether it's a 'good day' or a 'bad day'. Obviously we all have those so it's a bit difficult to explain but they personality change is becoming more apparent. He is very scared and seeks reassurance from the nurses and our selves which we are all happy to provide. We just want to be as honest as we can be with him.
An additional complication is that we don't know how long the cancer has been present, as he's not been to a GP in over 20 years prior to the diagnosis in September!
Thanks for reading 
Thank you 
That's very helpful and appreciated I'll take a look at the links
