Some thoughts on emotional responses to hormone therapy

Hi Brian, yes, helping someone does also help us feel better about ourselves! I read somewhere in my studies about the different stages of life. I’ve tried to google it and there seems umpteen different ideas about these stages now. The one I read suggested that in our ‘more mature’ years we want to give back to society. I have read your contribution and it’s pleasing that you are getting support in your work with MacMillan and your wife and family.  I hope you enjoy the work and thanks for the support you give us all

Wow, what a brilliant and thought provoking post WW.  I had taken it for granted that my new ‘softer’ me was drug induced, but the post has made me think twice.  Cancer has changed my outlook and not the drug regime.  David

Thanks for your message Steve and yes you are certainly right about listening to your body!  I shall try to be a little tougher with my hubby.  It’s a difficult for him to accept as always been a fit, healthy man.  Thanks for the links I will certainly check them out and definitely need to reevaluate things going forward.  

WATP said:

Thanks for the links I will certainly check them out and definitely need to reevaluate things going forward.  

You can also get good advice from Maggie's Centre if you have one nearby.

I do agree with all that has been said on  this  as some of you know my life was changed by different reasons than cancer.  And crying has now become a thing for kindness. animal movies and people just saying hello.

Hello Les, yes, I know you’ve been going through a very painful and personal grief. My own experience of grief is that it comes in waves and is physically so painful across my chest that it brings tears to my eyes. A good cry follows and then I can get going again until the next wave. Gradually the waves get further apart and less painful but there is always that empty seat at the heart of the family, that gap in your very being, isn’t there? 
but I was talking to a very senior doctor at work one day. He turned this gap on its head! He said the bigger the gap, the bigger the grief, the better that now missing person had lived his/her life. So true! 

so please honour your memories of Maureen , your tears and your grief. You telling us about it just show us what a wonderful person Maureen was and will always be within your heart and your memories .

have you planted the rose yet?

take care of yourself and please know that we are all here for you x

Hik Worriedwife

I have not got the Maureen Rose yet as it is now the wrong time to plant a rose. But I have a rose that has a slight pink colour with slght blue in it. Blue was one of Maureens favorite colours and as well was Pink.

Hi Les, it would be lovely if you could send a pic of it when it blooms? 

One other thing occurred to me early this morning. 

Assuming your other half is fully employed rather than self employed, and he works for a larger company, an occupational health department might be a good place to seek help. 

They have a duty of care in circumstances like this. 

Your story brings tears to my eyes. 

I have not suffered the same way as you have, but there have been times of grief. 

It is one of those things that is very personal. I cannot understand your grief, but can empathise. 

My help was to seek ways of being what I needed to others. 

I smiled at people, opened doors, lifted buggies, picked up things that babies had dropped. It could be said that I tried to make other people feel the way I wanted to feel. 

Over time, it worked. 

I try and keep it up now, because I can. Both my mother and father would have done this, and every time I offer help it is for them.

God bless, and say hello to a lot of people.