Am I allowed to think about anything else apart of my husband advanced cancer? I started to learn Spanish in Covid lockdown and in the last 12 days I stopped. I feel guilt to go back to it. T
I know what you mean, I recently resigned from a new job that I have only had for a year, It was an exciting and challenging job that I threw myself into and loved, a month later my partner was diagnosed with PC. I convinced myself that the job would distract me and I could carry on and I did really well for sometime. But my headspace changed, what was a challenge, became an inconvenience, my priorities were different. I felt bad ("guilty"?) about being absent from my partner and I also just wanted to give him and this problem of cancer 100%. That's all it is, things that were important to me then are not so important now. It's not a bad thing it's just recognising that you need to do something else at that moment. But, now I have a new part-time job that is more enjoyable because, I don't need to take the work home with me and I can separate work from home. I don't feel guilty about doing something I want and need to do because it's good for me to have my own time and interests. Just go back to Spanish and see if your mind is clear enough to absorb what's happening as learning a language is hard enough without having intrusive thoughts about PC. It's sounds like it is a good thing to do and you must have made friends in the class. It's important to do thing's that are independent and for you as well, it keeps you balanced.
Thank you so much for your reply. You guys really hold me together in the last two weeks. Honestly, it makes me feel so much better and ready to get this BAS.. PC. and fight it for him and for us.
