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Hope you both enjoy the canaries.

Ooooo, get you, sparkly shoes 

Hi Gina

Unfortunately I may be on my last treatment, things may not permit this though, badly scared liver, heart valve stops any ling surgery, and I still suffer with a build of fluid, so all in all not great.

Stay Safe

Joe

Sounds good. Hope R behaves himself and you have a wonderful day out. Are you going by train! 

Yes, how grown up is that , unlike you buzzing up and down the city!!! x

The key bit is "safely".

The alternative I have encountered is "abandoned".

That is hard to deal with.

Hmmm, I have been watching programmes on Blaze about UFOs etc. It is quite an eye opener about how many cover ups all governments have made and just how many sightings there have been by not just "Jo public", but military etc. I am now beginning to believe that we are being watched/visited.

I must admit, at times, I feel like saying "beam me up Scotty!" 

Gx

Gina, remember when you are at the 'War of the Worlds ', watch out for the "Pantomime effect"

"It's Behind You!!!"

Hi Gina (Sidsmum ) I remember you saying you had plenty of caring experience prior to Richard. My mum had dementia and she would always ask where my dad was (he had died shortly before).  I used to explain in great depth what was wrong with him and how he had passed away, only to get the same question again and again. It just didn’t feel right lying to her. Then I had some basic dementia training which explained it was much easier for the patient if you went along with their story.  So when she asked where my dad was next time I said ‘where do you think he is’ and her answer was ‘at work’ (he had been retired for 30 years!) so I responded that the trains were probably running late which she accepted without any stress and she could accept the answer as it fitted into her confused state rather than causing more conflict.  When you explained that Richard had thought he had moved, it all came back to me, that relentless trying to explain the facts but actually he can’t accept it.  Maybe a small lie to say you are staying there but going home soon?  I am not an expert by any means but it may be less stressful for you?

Anyway, enjoy your day out.  David

Hi David

I had exactly the same problem with my mother who had dementia. I was sitting with her one day when she asked me where her muchloved aunt and her father were. Like you, I didn't think it was right to lie so I told her they had died a long time ago. The grief on her face was awful to see. From then on I lied because I knew every time I said they had died she would be reliving that grief. Although, perhaps, ethically wrong, it was done with the aim of protecting her?

A difficult one.