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Yes Brian, that's 3/5 done.

WW, When I was going through the 20 Radiation sessions, I was determined not to go sick from work, (mainly because I wouldn't get any sick pay).

It was hard, especially in the last 2 weeks, but I persevered.  I was being overtaken by snails, walking to work.  It was talking over 1/2 hour to walk a 6-7 minute walk.  Complete with rests every few minutes.

It will be hard for your husband, but I am sure he will crack it with you by his side.

There is a term called 'intercorporeality'. It's when one person's physical discomfort is felt by another. The best analogy is that of yawning. If we see somebody yawn we often yawn too!  If we see somebody scratching their head and the talk turns to fleas/nits we start scratching too! With my husband, when he is struggling, I struggle too! this is why I am dreading his RT. I'm frightened I won't be able to cope because he might not be able to cope! But, I know that I've got to have the strength to get him to each and every session. But... will I have that strength? Will he?

I absolutely appreciate Brian detailing his journey and any tips from Mrs Millibob will be gratefully received!!!

WW,

Everyone here is rooting for you both.

If you struggle when your husband struggles, is it the same when he is feeling good?

You will both be fine.  You are a lot stronger than you make out.  Try not to be frightened that you both might not be able to cope.

If you are there every step with your husband, I am sure you will both be ok.

With myself it was the fear of the unknown that got to me all of the time.

Thanks, Steve. Yes, it's the fear of the side effects that's so scary for me. RT starts next week. 

Mrs Millibob's been great. She intends not to show any emotion but it's the little things that count - she holds my hand when I am not expecting it, she feeds the dogs when I normally do it. The washing up gets done without me - she does all the little things that I usually do. (Note to other blokes - I didn't do ALL the washing up in the past!!).

She's there for me and that's all I need (cue tears - that's the effin hormones).

Cheers - Brian.

PS You will both be fine once the first visit is over you will crack on,

It's a pity you couldn't have the Radiotherapy sessions at a better time to suit you both.

It won't help if you end up stuck in traffic.  You could try and ask at the hospital if there's any chance of moving the appointments to a better time.

You never know if you don't ask.

There could be someone else who would like lunch times better.

I asked for one of my sessions to be moved no problems

So what is it supposed to do apart from make you giddy and see the world from another perspective?!!

I cooked a nice meal for us and my sister and partner on Friday and then we had a family meal in a pub with a carvery yesterday.  Trouble is, I do things to make him happy and then when it is over, his mood plummets again. I never know what to do for the better. 

Gina

Don't know if it supposed to monitor any changes in my blood pressure  (when I am dangling upside down).  I will let you know all about it, when it happens.

It's a hard one, with Richard.  I wouldn't know what to say (Yes, me not knowing what to say).

I bet if you could get Richard to post here we could change his mood (or make him worse)!