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Hi Jenny,

I can so totally relate to your situation. Richard had started to withdraw from life a few years before his diagnosis and became very depressed and turned to drink. I don't think I have ever felt so lonely even though he was living in the same house with me. I ended up getting a dog again so at least I could get out and meet more people, which I did, and one of whom is now my partner of over four years.

However, soon after announcing I no longer wished to be his wife, he was diagnosed with grade 4 pca. He already had heart problems and after initially reading Dr Google, decided I could not leave him as he may only have a short time to live. Well that was in 2021 and he is still here, albeit incredibly frail and I am still here with him as his full time carer but at least I now have some help every morning. 

Having had a fall nine weeks ago, R is now due home tomorrow. I had a hospital bed arrived today and several bits of equipment. At least I don't have to spend every afternoon driving to the hospital and back. Whilst relatively boring visiting someone every day, albeit with the odd relief from our carer, I will strangely miss the activities witnessed in the hospitals.

Yesterday, I was sat just yards away from a man who had been suffering from constipation. He was brought a commode and sat behind the curtains for about ten minutes making the loudest farting noises I think I have ever heard and in between, groaning a loud sigh of relief. The  odour then started permeating the room, but luckily for Richard he has no sense of smell. Unfortunately, I do. This gentleman was so obnoxious and complained all the time while he was an inmate. He was due to go home later that afternoon, so R thought it would be a better idea to wheel the poor chap outside in the carpark on the commode to finish his business and then await the transport, and relieve all the others in the ward from the noise and smell!!! He also suggested that the area be declared a disaster and someone should use the yellow and black tape the police use, to cone off the space round the chap's bed. At least he still has a good sense of humour.

Then there was the day room where Sarah (88) fell asleep in her custard and Audrey kept trying to escape on her own, several times, only to be told to wait and they would take her to her room. She then agreed on the proviso that when she went back, they get a 20 year old man to share her bed with her!!

I have had a wonderful nine week's respite and yesterday the opportunity to meet Worried Wife, when we always put the world to rights over our free coffees courtesy of Gates Garden Centre. So back to the carer's role for me, but at least he will be downstairs now and hopefully easier to manage with the hospital bed and we have carers from the council coming in, at least for a few weeks. We have had them before and they are a lovely team of ladies. 

Keep occupied and try and keep sane!!

Gina

Gina (Sidsmum) 

What can I say - you have missed your way,surely you should be writing a script for a T V comedy show.............seriously though to go through what you have been through and still being able to smile takes some guts. You deserve more than a medal.

Keep up the good work.

Kind regards - Brian.

Yes, I agree with Brian, what a story better than some of Enid  Blytons

Hi Gina, lovely to see you yesterday. It’s always so good to talk! I hope all goes to plan with the homecoming tomorrow! You know where I am if you need a listening ear etc!!! Take care of yourself too xxx

Gina, as Brian said 

Millibob said:

.....seriously though to go through what you have been through and still being able to smile takes some guts. You deserve more than a medal.

This is so true!  I hope, now that R will be downstairs it will be easier for him, and especially for you!!!

There definitely could be a comedy script somewhere...

Take care and best wishes to you and your partner.

Does anyone here remember "Carry on, Doctor".

Sometimes hospital visits can be a bit like that.

Well done for keeping your sense of humour Gina.!

Yes, or even some of Benny Hill's hospital clips

Ooh Matron!!!

I liked 'Carry on Screaming' best. 

Oh yes, I do remember and it was very much like that at times. After nine weeks, I did see and hear some really funny things. 

You have to laugh or you would cry!! I always try and see the funny side of things but it has sometimes got me in trouble, especially at school. I was the class clown at times.

Gina x

OMG a blast from the past . I really don’t think they would allow in this sad world. 
they maybe need to bring stuff like that back so we have good old fashioned laughs .