Not sure if I am duplicating this on another part of the site, but my husband (77) was diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer about a year ago. He has multiple bone mets throughout the skeleton and whilst initially on Firmagon (hormone therapy), he has changed to Prostap as he had too much pain from the first.
He has bladder incontinence which is manageable by wearing pads but has been having often uncontrollable diarrhea every day for nearly four months. He has had an endoscopy and a colonoscopy so far and oncology say nothing to do with the cancer. He recently had an MRI to rule out spinal compression and a contrast ct scan. Nothing sinister found that they didn't already know.
However, my biggest worry is that he can no longer can eat. I have tried everything, obviously including his favourite foods. He can manage sweet things like fruit, yoghurt and soft deserts but he just cannot mange more than a couple of mouthfuls of any savoury food and is having Energy drinks supplied by the doctor.
My questions are, do other sufferers have bad diarrhea and is total lack of appetite and inability to eat normal. He is going downhill so fast and also getting dehydrated too. I am at my wits end trying to help him.
Hi steve, point taken, upto early 2020 I would have gone against anyone fitness wise, started jogging and walking last month admittedly more wallking than jogging, got to keep the waight off the gut.
But a week gone Thursday I felt 85, spent all day in bed.
All the best Ulls
Isn't it amazing that people quite often split up with one partner only to get together with a carbon copy. My brother has done this 3 times now and all his wives are so similar to his first wife its unbelievable. Of course each one has been younger - that's all. So sorry it cost you any good or even bad times with your Dad for all that time. Such a shame.
Gina - absolutely be my guest. If it helps someone or makes them laugh that's a big bonus as the times are so hard.
Thanks. Hopefully, one day I will find time to compile a little book. Will take some research though.
Gina
Steve,
I do scribble notes and appointments in my filofax diary but I often get side tracked with things and jump from one project to another. If I am not playing nurse, carer, grandmother etc I am in the garden or working on some sort of craft or project. I have to keep busy as boredom is my worst enemy.
Richard is so much better. His bowel problems have improged enormously and at least controlled. He is also eating much more and really appreciating my culinary offerings. I love cooking and have hated just cooking for myself. Now, as he is beginning to eat more and also seeming to love his food, that makes me so much happier. Unfortunately, it might not help me keep my weight down as before, I just used to have a snack as opposed to a proper dinner.
I was just typing this and my pc shut down. I booted back up but lost my mouse and keyboard. Lots of analysis and now have it all up and running thankfully. Having lost my hard drive a week or so ago and costing a fortune to get the data retrieved, I couldn't believe I was having problems yet again. I am very computer literate but when the bloody things stop working they can really pee you off.
Have a great weekend. Hope your cows don't get too hot!!
Best regards
Gina
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