Well meant comments

Young man

I think that apart from your very nearest and dearest people don't know how to react when they hear the dreaded  C word.

That's why I told only a very few people over the last 7 years since being diagnosed. 

Steve

Unless you’ve experienced cancer or have been very close to someone dealing with cancer people don’t really know or understand. You’re looking well is one of the comments. I respond by saying I was looking well before diagnosis and before recurrence, doesn’t necessarily mean you are cancer free.

As Steve said people don’t really know what to say and rather than saying little they can go into overdrive!

All the best,

Indeed,

 I've managed to laugh off most comments, but last night too many and too much sympathy gets too much.   

I found myself apologising that I told them I had cancer. Can laugh now, thankfully the hormone therapy has removed testosterone and generally more placid less likely to bite back

The other problem is that if you are going to talk with someone about cancer it really needs to be talked about in some detail.

The people that I decided not to tell ,  which did include some family members would not have been interested in psa, Gleeson, prostate contained etc.

The (best) worst comment I got was from a clinical nurse specialist who said, "Don't worry, you've got ten years."

That was eight years ago!

It reminds me of one of the (very dated and very few) jokes I know

Doctor to patient, "There's good news and there's bad news."

Patient to doctor, "What's the good news?"

Doctor to patient, "We've got your results back and they said you've got one month to live."

Patient to doctor, "If that's the good news, what's the bad news?"

Doctor to patient, "We got your results a month ago."

Since losing my hair to chemo it’s harder to hide, which I suppose doesn’t help