Ask about sex and prostate cancer

Hello Lorraine, my name is Martin,I’ve got a couple of questions about me and my prostrate cancer that I hope you can help me with or at least point me in the right direction.

A little background information, I am 66, in a relationship with a lovely lady and we are living together . Pre cancer we hadn’t been together for very long as we had both been widowed ( she for 12 years and me for 2 ) we had as is the norm with any new relationship a fulfilling and exciting sex life. We are/were very fit and active we met doing ballroom dancing and pre-COVID would go dancing 4 or 5 times every week.Then prostrate cancer, I was diagnosed in December 2019, and had the usual battery of test and mri etc, in late January 2020 my consultant recommended that I went for a radical prostatectomy, I then got to see a surgeon in Exeter who does the robotic surgery. I was scheduled for an operation in March but Covid struck and all was cancelled. I had a short course of hormone therapy, which didn’t like at all, I got a bit moody and put on some weight. Luckily for me I had the op in June , I had the robot assistant, radical prostrate removal with a partial nerve sparing.

As recommended by the staff at the urology unit I’ve always done a lot of pelvic muscle exercises, they said a would help post op. Since the removal of the catheter post op I have been 99% dry no pads  at all , I’ve have had one or two times when during a heavy sneeze or cough that catches me unawares when I’ve leaked a little but nothing major a tiny amount not enough to get embarrassed about. From reading stuff on the web I realised that  I’m very lucky and I’m exceptionally great full . However the sex thing isn’t working as well as I would like and I need some help or advise to improve things. I don’t find this talking about stuff that easy but I’ll do my best, sorry if I ramble a bit. I have tried viagra and it really didn’t do much for me, I  now take a daily dose of tadalafil 5mg, which works up to a point. During fore play with my partner I can and do get an erection , but it’s not hard enough to penetrate and doesn’t really last long enough for us. I normally have to finish my partner off  by hand , I know I can’t actually ejeculate any sperm anymore but I can still have the feeling of doing  so. Is there anything that you recommended that could help us to improve our sex life, thank y9u in advance.

Hello Lorraine, my name is Martin,I’ve got a couple of questions about me and my prostrate cancer that I hope you can help me with or at least point me in the right direction.

A little background information, I am 66, in a relationship with a lovely lady and we are living together . Pre cancer we hadn’t been together for very long as we had both been widowed ( she for 12 years and me for 2 ) we had as is the norm with any new relationship a fulfilling and exciting sex life. We are/were very fit and active we met doing ballroom dancing and pre-COVID would go dancing 4 or 5 times every week.Then prostrate cancer, I was diagnosed in December 2019, and had the usual battery of test and mri etc, in late January 2020 my consultant recommended that I went for a radical prostatectomy, I then got to see a surgeon in Exeter who does the robotic surgery. I was scheduled for an operation in March but Covid struck and all was cancelled. I had a short course of hormone therapy, which didn’t like at all, I got a bit moody and put on some weight. Luckily for me I had the op in June , I had the robot assistant, radical prostrate removal with a partial nerve sparing.

As recommended by the staff at the urology unit I’ve always done a lot of pelvic muscle exercises, they said a would help post op. Since the removal of the catheter post op I have been 99% dry no pads  at all , I’ve have had one or two times when during a heavy sneeze or cough that catches me unawares when I’ve leaked a little but nothing major a tiny amount not enough to get embarrassed about. From reading stuff on the web I realised that  I’m very lucky and I’m exceptionally great full . However the sex thing isn’t working as well as I would like and I need some help or advise to improve things. I don’t find this talking about stuff that easy but I’ll do my best, sorry if I ramble a bit. I have tried viagra and it really didn’t do much for me, I  now take a daily dose of tadalafil 5mg, which works up to a point. During fore play with my partner I can and do get an erection , but it’s not hard enough to penetrate and doesn’t really last long enough for us. I normally have to finish my partner off  by hand , I know I can’t actually ejeculate any sperm anymore but I can still have the feeling of doing  so. Is there anything that you recommended that could help us to improve our sex life, thank you in advance. Martin.