Hi all, second post from me but this time my husband is keen to hear from others in a similar situation.
briefly, he was diagnosed at the end of May with stage 4, Gleason 9, spread to pelvic wall and multiple lymph nodes. the oncologist said prognosis 18-24 months but if treatment works then maybe 4 years. My husband is finding this prognosis so difficult to comes to terms with. I have tried to reassure him that this may not be the case as I have read on here of lots in a similar situation that have surpassed this time.
We are still in complete shock and my husband still feels really angry as he had been back and forth to see the GP for a couple of years with, what we know now, many symptoms of prostate cancer and maybe if he hears about guys in a similar situation then it may help.
thank you all x
I think you have missed your vocation - and at the rate I am going it will be 3XL or as they say in Turkey - "jelly belly size"
Kind Regards - Brian x

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I totally agree with you and I really like your optimism.
lets face it, the truth is that up until now most if not all doctors and oncologists don’t know the main cause of prostate enlargement, let alone prostate cancer and therefore we can’t rely much hope that they will eventually cure us.
So the best way is to live our day by day happily and don’t think of death as a scary thing because ultimately we all will die one day Orr the another.
what I do now is I read stories of prostate cancer survivors who used alternative methods to cure themselves based on plants and fruits only and who used supplements to cure their cancer.
i know doctors here would not love to read this but it is a fact that there are thousands of prostate cancer survivors who succeeded in their fight against the cancer by using natural cures only.
Reading such stories give me hope and enhance my optimism towards living with Prostate Cancer in peace.
Good Morning Desertfalcon
i agree with your post and yes, we all will die - I am another one having been given a "wake up call" I now live life to the full. I am one of the lucky ones who don't worry or suffer from anxiety so I am very lucky.
I can fully understand you following stories of people who have survived prostate cancer by using "natural cures only". On the Community we do have to stick by the Community Guidelines when it comes to Alternative and Complementary Therapies.There is no problem in discussing them, we just have to watch the Guidelines as Macmillan's advice follows the guidance from the medical profession.
Best wishes - Brian.

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Thank you for your reply DesertFalcon. Yes, a cancer diagnosis sure is a wake up call for us all.
As a retired nurse, I am personally very much steeped in our medical model of evidence based, scientific care and could be accused of bias.
That said, I was very intrigued when in Singapore’s China Town to see the alternative Chinese remedies on sale. I also noted that the King has rewarded one of his own alternative medical advisers who has been part of his own ‘cancer team’.
i also know that a lot of our own prescribed medicines are derived from plants eg aspirin ( willow I think?) digoxin ( foxglove), senna, tamoxifen ( yew, I think?) . But these have all gone through clinical trials to ensure correct and optimal dosage and efficacy.
I love my husband and desperately don’t want to lose him. Because of that, I have supported him in following the advice and treatment pathway recommended by our NHS clinical route. That said, I’ve ditched caffeine from lunch time onwards and taken to drinking herbal teas in an attempt to overcome chronic insomnia!
I guess, what I’m trying to say is that how we deal with this is always a matter of personal choice and decision based on our religious and cultural beliefs. I do think, though, that any treatment pathway for serious illnesses should be prescribed and supervised by appropriately qualified professionals and underpinned by sound evidence and with necessary regulatory approvals and guidelines etc in place.
Totally agree with you, I was told I was in remission. With the thought of cancer in my nodes and bones I've still got the same thoughts as when I was diagnosed, by the way an excellent post.
Hi WW.
On a personal note, have you tried any relaxation techniques etc. for the insomnia. I am sure that our champion may have access to different sources of help if you want it. I have just had a severe telling off by my GP because of the effects insomnia and stress have had on me over 4 years. I have had my diet and exercise levels checked as OK, but even so it has pushed me into pre diabetes and high cholesterol. Like you I limit coffee to morning only and all other drinks are decaffeinated. We don't eat late and have a whiskey maybe twice a week. Nothing seems to work for me so any tips would be welcome.
Another thing to add to your excellent post is that it is important to check with the medical team before any supplements or alternative medicines are taken because they can interfere with the way that some prescription drugs work and could be dangerous.
Hey Hotflushiva
this is amazing, I didn’t know you can go into remission once it is in your bones.
this is so positive, thanks for sharing.
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