Feeling heartbroken

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Hi everyone. I’m new to this group.
the week before Christmas I was diagnosed with invasive melanoma. My boyfriend of 4.5 years & I was having problems & he had moved by to his house. Upon my diagnosis moved he back into my house & he has been by my side throughout.
in January I had a WLE on my face & lymph node tests. Last Thursday I received the results from the lymph nodes. The cancer had not spread.
on Friday we were out celebrating. All drunk.
He went to bed & I was looking at his phone for something different & discovered he was on fab swingers website messaging numerous women practically begging them to meet up. It all got very out of hand. My kids are in their 20s & threw him out my house. I was & am distraught over it. I very very stupidly wrote it all over his facebook page the next day & humiliated him.
He then told me he has never met any of these women & was looking for attention & to feel wanted. We both struggled to deal with the diagnosis.
I would like some advice. Has anyone else been through anything this? Thank you for reading

Trish02 1 month ago

Gosh you must feel awful. Sorry to hear this and especially through a difficult time like this. Let the dust settle then you both need to talk this through. It’s emotionally charged for you atm and maybe wise to just be calm if you want genuine answers from your partner. If you have a trusted family member or friend, try reaching out for support. Wishing you well.

Winelady 1 month ago in reply to Trish02

Hi. Thanks for your response. Yes I do have people who I can talk to. Was just wondering if anybody else’s partner had acted in a similar way. X

Jabs 1 month ago in reply to Winelady

you must be feeling dreadful. I hope things have settled down for you as far as your relationship is concerned. Your diagnosis is a lot to deal with and unfortunately your partner will be feeling emotions that he might find difficult to deal with or understand.
my husband has been brilliant but unfortunately he forgets how I am feeling. There are down days, probably more than the up days. I am in no man’s land at the moment, and as much as I’m trying to carry on as normal, things are not normal.
what great advice from Trish, let the dust settle a while, then have a long needed talk.
thinking about you, I hope things settle down for you.

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