so so scared waiting for my results.

Good morning.

Thank you for your reply it is much appreciated.

I am really glad to hear that you are ok.

I don't speak to my wife about the way i feel, (even though she knows) as I feel i will only get upset of the prospect of having to leave my wife and our 3 boys, so it just seems easier to join a forum, not sure if that makes any sense ?

At the moment I am trying my best not to think about it, but finding it very hard not to, and its hard not to keep googling things.

All the diagnosis on the internet are very very bad an as you know it play on you mind all the time, appetite sleeping, being withdrawn etc.

Like I said to Latchbrook on my reply yesterday, I am probably 1%  optimistic about the outcome.

Thank you once again.

Simon

I totally understand, I’d be lying if I hadn’t had most of those thoughts cross my mind along the way. I too have a young family and I don’t think I was as open with my partner as I could have been, for similar reasons. I also experienced a lot of the physical symptoms of worry and anxiety and I actually got some help form my GP for that in the end

What I can say here is that I went through all of that in the period between initial suspicion by the dermatologist and getting the results of my WLE and SLNB. I also lost my job during that period also (im the primary earner in our household). In retrospect, for me it was the loss of control over both the health and other issues. Once I had my results, even though in my case they were not the ones I had hoped for, life got a lot better. Do I still think about it now? Sure, that’s why im still here in this forum. But it’s no longer debilitating as it was. Finding a new job and having the clarity I have now helped me get control back is the main difference. 

If I had to change something from my experience, it would have been being more open with my other half about how I was feeling. I know I put her through a lot of worry and it might have helped us both along the way. I didn’t really have anyone in my social circle that I could really discuss it with and the kids were too young to have to deal with it  so I’ve still not told them now (though I’m reflecting on that now as sun care is a topic I do want to discuss with them) Definitely continue asking questions here too rather than Google. I certainly find it helpful reading though the experiences here.

Good luck and remember, it may turn out to be nothing to worry about for you. But if it does not, there are plenty of paths forward. 

I’m so sorry to hear your story, I agree with #latchbrookthat worrying is the worst. The dermatologist can’t tell just by looking, two of my suspicious moles were all ok. The other one was not but following an excision and sentinel lymph node biopsy which showed that the cancer fortunately hadn’t spread, my treatment is finished and I’m just going to be monitored. However there are follow up treatments available should you need them. Please try not to worry. 

Thank you again for your reply.

That is an inspirational reply, which i will try my best to take on board however hard it might be.

I will have a chat with my wife tonight about things as well.

Thank you once again and take care of yourself and your family.

Simon

Thank you Catnan.

Yes i also agree with Latchbrook, worrying is the worst thing I / we can do, it hard not too though, it has took over my last two weeks.

I must admit I feel a bit better after joining this forum as you have all be so very helpful.

I do feel guilty though as i have no results as yet and there are people out there struggling with a lot more problems than me at the moment.

Thank you again.

You have all been very very helpful.

Simon

No need to feel guilty! Good luck 

Thank you Catnan.

Take care.

Hi Simon

Just read your post.  I've just had 2 biopsies done this morning and been told it could be 6-8 weeks before I hear back.  Unfortunately, it seems there is a general back log.  

Similar to you, one was for a very dark mole I've had 4-5 years and the other a more recent, smaller, but round and scabby.  My initial appointment with the dermatologist was 2 weeks prior - I don't think you can go off their initial reaction.  She pretty quickly identified the small one for removal but only flagged the older mole after a full body check.   

To compound matters, she then asked if her 2 medical students could come in and examine them which I didn't think was a particularly good sign.  I left in a bit of a tizz as I only went with the small one as a slight concern and had never considered the other. 

Again, like you, I jumped on the internet as soon as I was out.  Checking melanoma pics and comparing etc.  I convinced myself they were both serious. 

I stopped looking on google after about 24 hours -as it just drives you mad. As that, together with my 'sun history' probably means I should be nervous.

Over the years I've known a couple of people who passed away way too young with cancer.  One at 24 and the other at 40.  Both were quite ill before the cancer was diagnosed at stage 4. 

If you are feeling healthy, hopefully you'll be good for a few years yet! 

Whilst there's always a chance of it coming back as bad news, there is a greater chance it won't be. Hard to do but try and crack on.  

Wishing you all the best and that you get the all clear in the very near future.

Kind regards

Steve 

We’re waiting together Simon!

im currently on wk 4 with the consultants secretary chasing the lab for me!

Fully understand how hard it is to not think about it. My iffy mole appeared overnight and hurt - consultant said it was a melanoma but I guess we’ll have to wait and see the official results! 

fingers crossed we both hear v soon x

Hi.

Yes the waiting is so hard, it upsets your day to day life in such a big way mentally and physically.

I really hope everything turns ok 100% ok for you.

Take care.

Simon.