Hi I've been advised to put my situation on this page as I desperately need support and help ai appointment has come back that my mole is malignant melanoma and I have now been referred to a plastic surgeon on the 7th July and I'm not coping my mind has taken me to the worst case scenario I suffer badly with anxiety as I've been through a lot so this is killing me I'm so terrified it's making me physically sick can anyone help please x
Hi, It’s only natural to worry and I was so anxious when I got the results that I had MM. Have you had your staging and what Breslow depth it is? Mine was stage 1a thankfully and I had my WLE a few months ago and the margins came back clear which was a relief. All I can say is that the treatment for MM has come on leaps and bounds nowadays.
So sorry you’re going through this, but you’re in the right place here as most of us have been where you are now.
Firstly, you have a date to see the plastic surgeon which is only three weeks away. I know that that seems a really long time when you’re anxious, but it will come round quickly. The fact that you are in the system and on a treatment pathway is really positive. As others have said, the treatment for this condition has come on leaps and bounds.
Have you been given the name of a contact at your hospital? Usually it’s a cancer specialist nurse or MacMillan nurse. If you have, they are really helpful. They’re trained to give you information about your diagnosis and discuss your feelings. They would also be able to explain to you what’s likely to happen at your next appointment. When I had my diagnosis, mine was so supportive, she really did ease a lot of my anxiety.
I’m guessing that you’ve had a biopsy and this is an appointment to discuss a wider local excision, where they will cut away even more of the surrounding tissue to make absolutely sure that all the cancer cells have been removed. It may be that they need to look at your lymph nodes as well, which would be under general anaesthetic.
I was diagnosed with a Stage 1B melanoma last November and had surgery at the end of December for a wider local excision and sentinel lymph node biopsy under my armpit. luckily the lymph nodes were clear and my treatment plan is to have three monthly skin checks with a specialist dermatology nurse.
in the meantime try looking at reliable sources of information, such as this website, or Melanoma Focus.. When left to our own devices, our imagination takes us to the worst places. I found that these websites really helped me to put things into perspective.
Hoping that things work out well for you. x
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