After a persistent chesty cough and three lots of antibiotics my mum has been diagnosed with aggressive lung cancer. The consultant said that some would say there’s nothing they can do but he’s willingly to try. Physically my mum isn’t in the best of health, she suffers from PTSD, which stems from an operation she had many years ago where she nearly lost her life, plus she has a platelet disorder. So because of this the chemo being given has been reduced to ease her through it as much as possible. The first session has gone well, she has been hit with extreme tiredness. She has to have seven days of injections to boost her white blood which she isn’t liking at all as she gets very panicky around needles. She’s now had severe pain in both her legs and I’ve noticed she’s starting to stutter . Whilst I’m usually a positive person I’m already fearing that the cancer has spread. We are waiting on MRI results. Mentally my mum isn’t very strong and she is already saying that she probably won’t continue with treatment as it will just prolong the suffering she feels. It is so very hard to watch a loved one go through this and I will support her in any decision she makes. It was only three weeks ago we got the diagnosis.
Good morning Billybond.
I am sorry you find yourself in such a difficult situation, perhaps I can help a little. If you tap my avatar you can read about my journey so far. I have lung cancer at stage 4 can be treated but not cured. I was diagnosed in December 2021 and commenced my treatment Jan 22. Any cancer treatment is difficult and a consistent side effect of any treatment is fatigue, my advice is let your mum rest when she feels she needs to. When she has completed cycles of treatment the tiredness will improve. Like your mum I hate needles ask her to speak to her specialist nurse about this, they have access to specialist people who can help with this or if you have a local Maggie's centre try contacting them or just drop in to the centre if you are able. They are lovely people and can offer help and support to both you and your mum.
I am happy to chat with you anytime I really to understand how difficult this is. I have sent you a friend's request if you wish to accept it. You must take care of yourself at this difficult time both mentally and physically you can't support your mum if you are stressed and worried. You can always speak to macmillion volunteer on the telephone. It's free and the number can be found on the home page.
In the meantime take care, I sure others will come along and offer good advice and support on here we are a good friendly bunch.
Hugs
Donna
Thank you for your response. It is comforting to hear from someone going through the same journey as my mum. I am glad your treatment is going well. Fatigue has been a massive side effect to my mums chemo, she is struggling to walk around unaided. The last day or so she’s not been eating and I worry that not eating or drinking is a bad sign. We have the Hospice Nurse visiting today so it will good to have a chat with her and see if there is anything we should be doing.
I will be following your journey and hope and pray that your treatment goes well.
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